Thu 15 Mar, 2007 06:48 pm
I am so saddened to tell you all of a death in our family, in the A2K family, the Moderator family.
timberlandko, his real name was Kevin, passed away on March third. I just got off the phone with his lady love, J., she told me that he was, ha, it's so like him when you think about it, he was sitting at the computer. He was on another floor and he called to her, but not in alarm. She came downstairs so she could hear him and she said, he made a little tiny sound, "like a dove" and then she saw he was unresponsive. She called to him, she's an RN, she did everything, we all know what 'everything' means under such circumstances. But he was gone, and the doctor who pronounced him dead said he died almost instantly from a heart attack and there was no pain. Thank God or Providence or karma or the great vibration in the sky, whatever you feel or believe or even if you don't believe, I think a little gratitude is in order that there was no pain.
We had a feeling, in Moderator Land, a kind of sinking feeling, you know how it is, it's just something you think and then you dismiss it really fast because you don't want it to be true. Kevin last posted on the very day he died and he told us he'd be offline for a few days as they were having DSL problems. But a few days later, well, we all knew what a computer wizard he was, he'd've put together a chicken coop and baling wire and an old radio antenna to get back online. So our hearts began to sink as we all started to fear the worst. One Mod voiced it a few days ago, we started to see some folks asking on the Lost and Misplaced A2K Members thread, and then a few days ago I screwed up my courage and I called.
J. had to compose herself to call me back, it took her a few days, I know it must have been very hard. She is a great woman, in Moderator Land we would call her "the lovely Mrs. timber" even though they were not married. That made her laugh a little and she remembers him with good humor. She told me her favorite story about him. A few years ago, it must have been several years ago, they went out to the movies and saw Beauty and the Beast, it was her choice, you know, it's not much of a 'guy' picture. And when the film was over she said to him, "Kevin, I think that movie was a little like us." And he looked at her, and took her face in his hands and said very gently, "Don't be so hard on yourself, J.." She and I laughed over that.
Let me tell you one of mine. I, too, have had spyware, and Kevin had been gracious enough to walk me through getting everything fixed. To thank him, I decided to surprise him and send him some books. I casually had asked what he likes and got the usual, "A great barbecue and a can of something fizzy." So I sent him a couple of books, one of which was a bunch of recipes for all sorts of stuff that guys like, you know, meatloaf, mashed potatoes and gravy, steak. He was surprised that I had done that, I think he just thought it was all in a day's work. He told me the recipe book was almost like food porn, it was just the kinda thing you drool over.
Kevin was 60 years old. He was active on a lot of forums, not just A2K, and he was all about helping people. Go google his userid, and he's on this forum and that, helping people with spyware or just chatting like he did with us. He was a guy's guy, he liked to hunt, he had been active in the local fire department and would drive a snowplow when the weather was bad and there wasn't anything to do with his computer business (he put together and serviced computers as a freelancer). He was a veteran. He was a father. And he also had a whole passel of dogs, J. says there are five, they're all strays or were abused, good dogs, I heard some barking while we were talking.
I don't know if you all recall Big Sam, the dog he talked about, who had cancer and had had an operation and seemed to be doing better. Three days after Kevin died, J. could see that Sam was suffering, so she gave Sam the greatest gift of all and let him be with his master. A man's gotta have his dog, and a dog's gotta have his man.
We really cared for Kevin, what we felt was love, it's a crazy thing, I guess, to love someone who's a lot of pixels and an occasional picture. He made us laugh. He helped us out. He pulled more spam than you'll ever know. He helped us with decisions. He kept an eye on so many things. There's an empty chair in Moderator Land.
I told J. that I'd like to keep in touch with her, and she'd like to do the same. It was with her kind permission that I'm telling you all this. She truly is the lovely Mrs. timber, and she's always welcome here.
Godspeed, Kevin, timberlandko, the King of Spyware Zapping, the Duke of the One-Liner and the Friend of so many.
Good night, sweet Prince. We'll miss you.
he's been dead for 12 days and we're just learning of it?
This is a double shock and horribly sad. I don't know what else to say....
Kevin, we'll miss you so.
Oh, My God.
I just don't know what else to say.
I haven't been around long, but Timber was someone to remember. Always there to help with a computer thing, always there for a funny word. And I loved hearing about his pack and his dog wisdom.
I'll miss him.
That is awful, I'm speechless.
Rest In Peace Timber.
Timber was wonderful, I'm stunned.
J., please come talk to us whenever and if ever you feel able. No hurry or push, but we're here.
I never liked timberland.
I was on the phone with my fiancee' at the same time I was scanning the topics, and I saw this. What I said to Cheryl was "I've been talking to this guy for a couple of years, and it was almost like I knew him." It was. Even though we disagreed on almost everything political, his generous heart kept shining through everytime I, or anyone else asked for help. He was a grownup. Damn. It's weird how big a hole timberlandko is gonna leave here...
Rest in Peace, Big Bird....
I was just wondering today where he was and kept expecting him to pop into Regions post about his remote PC set-up.
My love to Mrs. Timber. Kevin was much admired. He was so often the voice of reason among those of us that don't always use the best reasoning.
I'll miss you a lot Timber.
What a lovely post, jespah.
Mrs. Timber: I didn't know timberlandko, but I certainly read enough of his posts (he was everywhere!) and I liked his spirit. I had been wondering where he'd gotten to. I'm happy for him that he's free, but sad for you that must continue without him. I hope you gain some comfort from his wonderful cypber-friends and the esteem they held him in.
Rest in peace, Kevin. We are less for the loss of you.
It's heartbreaking news, jespah, and must have been very difficult to relay. Thank - you.
Kindest regards and sympathies to the lovely Mrs. Timber.
I am getting goose bumps while reading this. Timber was such a gentle man
and a wealth of knowledge which he so graciously only displayed when asked for it. He most certainly will be missed around here.
jespah, that is a very fine tribute to timber, and I am sure it was more
than difficult to write this. Thank you for such a great post.
I am so sorry he won't be around any longer.
oh my god.
not the bird. Not big bird. oh no.
love ya bird.
I don't know what to say.
This is terribly sad news.
I can't quite believe it.
Rest in peace, timber & thank you so much for all your patient help to this (computer) Luddite.
Oh God, that is terrible. And brutally unexpected.
Over the years, we have seen several of these threads to wrap us in a chill, when a regular poster passed away. But Timber was more than a regular poster. He was a fixture, a kind-hearted, gentle-mooded commenter, problem-solver, converseur.
To J., should she ever look in, my sympathies. I understood the Timbers lived out in wild-mooded nature, so they must have relied on each other and lived in close confidence even more than other couples who love each other dearly. And Timber always seemed a guy you could solidly rely on, trust and enjoy yourself with. Her loss must be enormous, the harshest of blows.
We'll miss him too, in our own, somewhat otherdimensional virtual way. Timber was a presence. He remained in a friendly mood, ever willing to banter, even in the fiercest political discussions. He was no stranger to partisan positions and the odd bit of rhetoric himself, but he was also always able to recognize and respect the efforts of someone on the other side. He seemed admirably unable to bear a grudge. I had some rather fierce go's at him in the early days, I must admit, and always was somewhat surprised that he gave me his respect anyway, and that he remained sincerely friendly throughout.
He often saw himself as a friendly arbitrator, and got some flack for that when he did so too pointedly. But over time he became something even better: a mediator, a man who was able to return a dosis of good spirit and friendly respect to even the most bitter discussions. And that was just on the Politics board - outside that war zone of sorts, he was a great causeur, pleasant company, and an ever-valuable source of practical help and advice. On top of that, he must have done an immense amount of selfless work as A2K volunteer, invisible to us members.
Whenever he talked of his home, J., his dogs, the outdoors, or even computers, he did so with such warmth and humour it is easy to imagine his vibrant personality. I'm sure he'll be sorely missed by everyone who knew him.