Is love so hard to give?

Sometimes it is. Other times, it isn't.

Deep

If you love yourself, giving love is a part of you, and can be shared, joyously. If not, it can be almost impossible.

Amen. (Dunno, just seemed to fit there)

Love is much harder to recieve than to give. At least, that is my experience.




(And I'm hoping for another 'amen' from snood )

Damn right it is hard to give. If it was easy we would all be a lot more loving.

I've heard what Phoenix has said repeated so many times, and it is probably true.
The problem with it is that there are so many of us that have been conditioned since birth to think that love is not the natural condition.
To me, that translates into having to work damn hard to take the loving route - even though it is terrifying - rather than to coast into the easy non loving hateful route.
Though we aren't all dealt the same love and support, and knowledge in how to love ourselves, from early on, at least we all have the choice minute to minute.

Sometimes, I have managed to show love even in midst of hating myself. Or maybe for that moment the hate stopped and in choosing love, I reversed the flow.

My observations have been that there are lots who feel their very existence is threatened by love. Fear prevails.

Weird as this may sound, love seems to me to come from the mind first rather than the heart. We can choose it at any minute even when we don't immedietly feel it.

That runs counter to what I thought when I was younger, and felt that lack of love could determine the quality of a person at base. Wasn't love something we all were supposed to feel so naturally? And if I don't feel it, well there must be something wrong?

Is love so hard to give?

At this moment, yes.

Honestly.

Tomorrow, probably a little easier.

It's right up there with forgiveness

it depends what kind of love you are giving.

I love yez all...each and every one of yez!

There...that wasn't so hard.

But you folks are such an easy bunch to love!

:wink:

Mutual, I'm sure.


But, yeah, love is hard to give because it means making yourself
vulnerable, opening yourself up to the possibility (even probability) of
getting hurt.

I suspect that when we can't give (express) love it's sometimes because we fear it is not wanted, and when we can't receive love it's sometimes because we fear that it's either not sincere or that it may be withdrawn.
But down deep we all need to give and receive love.

I believe it's easier for some than others.

There is nothing but love. Every action ever done by anyone was done out of love. Only problem is that love can be misguided, since it is reacted upon on the basis of a lot of illusions we might retain.

Every action ever done was out of love?

O----kay.......

yes snood, that is a fact.

Take ay action, and I will explain how it was motivated by love.

So it is maybe not so much a fact as a perspective, come to think.

Somebody keeps telling me "the opposite of love is not hate, it is fear."

Damn it, seems right, doesn't it. You scaredy catting?

Yes. Hate is love of self scorned, or love of something else scorned.

Fear is not the oposite of love. Fear is an impulse to protect what you love.

It's so complex. I agree with Cryacuz that one of our major sets of fear is fear FOR those we love.
At the same time Flushd is onto something. In love we MOVE TOWARD another and in fear we MOVE AWAY from another. At the same time in hatred with may also MOVE TOWARD those we wish to injure.