That is an excellent exposition, Miss Eppie. I think you see more clearly than do many of us. It is very easy to get mired in every day life, and lose track of the broader picture of a live to be lived. I appreciate that you have posted this.
Good, and the final paragraph is just perfect, heph. But if you ever do want to fit a mold, just find the right one; that is, one that already fits.
Roger, Thank you. I have yet to find a mold that would hold me very long. LOL And to be perfectly honest, I don't know if I really want to fit any mold.
I can't explain this really, as hard as I might try. Maybe some day I will be able to put it into words.
The only people I am myself with are my family and my very closest of friends, for everyone else I attempt to fit into a "mold" or I place a barrier in between myself and them, kinda sad really. The reason I personally do it a lot of the time or at least why I've done it in the past is to draw attention, any kind of attention, away from myself.
I wanted to fit into the mold so I'd become one of the many, not because I love the many, because I felt unwanted attention would take me down a wrong road, an unhappy one where I'd actually struggle to be myself, because of not feeling comfortable. Hard to explain but if I presented myself to people in a way that was fitting this "mold", I'd be in a better position (because I dislike being in the spotlight in a big way) to do my own thing, however subtle. I try to be myself in the background, where the pressure is off.
Your post showed a lot of thoughtful reasoning though, nice one.
Ashers, thank you for your honesty. I don't necessarily believe that who we are has to be shaped by whether or not we try to fit into a mold. I have come to the conclusion that the importance lies within the ability to recognize our individuality and not lose that while trying to fit into someone else's mold for us. If that is what we choose to do. Each individual has to have a sense of individuality otherwise they will never really know who they are because who they are will be defined by those around around them.
There are all kinds of barriers in life as well. My striving to not fit any molds could be considered a barrier also, if you really think about it. It is not sad to place barriers in our lives. It is very natural. When we place barriers in our lives we decide who we let in, as everyone has the right to do. We don't have to allow others to tread on us. Though sometimes we choose to without even realizing it. The tragedy comes when those barriers keep us from being who we really are. From being an individual and growing as a person because we block too many people out. It's all a very fine balance that each person has to come to terms with on their own.