Leaving the family for the mission of the Lord

Devi: Please give me strength when my husband, Nikhil and my daughter
Arsha leave me for the mission of the Lord, I shall not weep
I shall send them with full willingness and happiness at that time
To achieve that state, what shall I do from now onwards?

Swami: First of all I told that there is no need of leaving the home or family
If the home and the family are congenial to the mission by devotion
This question does not arise in your case since you are a great devotee
When the family opposes the mission, then only one has to leave home
However, I shall answer your question keeping you as a representative
For an un-matured devotee, in which case only this possibility arises
Neither God gives you such strength nor you can attain it by your effort
Such state should be spontaneous and then only the Lord is pleased.
Leave this mission, one day or other all have to separate and go
Then do you require the strength for such departure or not?
The departure is inevitable even for the un-divine human beings
If the blind love is accumulated day by day, just imagine that day
When one has to depart from all his blind attractions in this world!
Just on the deathbed, the Lord gives the last flash of knowledge
By that you will realize the truth because at that junction of life and death
One sees clearly both the worlds since the messengers of Lord Yama
Stand before the person to pull out the subtle body from the gross body
Then every one realizes that these bonds were absolutely unreal
In that last few minutes the agony starts because the person thinks like this
"For these blind bonds I have spent all my energy and my life time,
Who cannot save me in this time, the saviour is not coming now because
I have not spent my lifetime and energy for His mission when I was alive
Now even if I wish to serve the Lord for His mission, there is no time
When time was there this realization did not come, what could I do?"
At that time the person is pained for foolishly having these bonds
The person is not pained for leaving these bonds as you think now
That situation will open the eyes of every human being in this world

If you are not pained to leave these bonds for the mission now
When you are alive, you will not be pained at that last minute also,

You realize now and be wise to leave the bonds with happiness
You will have the same happiness at that time also to leave these bonds
One day or other you have to leave the bonds without any mercy
Why not leave the bonds now itself for the sake of the Lord and be saved?
When you leave these bonds at that time you are not saved for leaving the bonds
But if you leave the same bonds even before that time, you are saved always
Is it not wise to do an inevitable thing now itself and get its benefit?
Is it not foolishness to do the same inevitable thing then and loose everything?
The Lord is not pleased if you are sacrificing with pain and tears in your eyes
Suppose you are offering some money as Guru Dakshina to Me
If you are pained will I accept that? If you ask Me to give strength
To sacrifice that money to Me, how bad I shall feel about it?
If you are having bond with that money, don't give it to Me, keep it with you
Who asked you for your sacrifice? If the bond with that money is really broken
You will not weep when you are sacrificing that money to Me.
Such sacrifice is done by force and is not spontaneous at all
Suppose you are giving milk to your child, are you not happy to give that?
Are you weeping to give the milk to your child? Are you praying the Lord
To give strength to sacrifice milk to your child? This means that the Lord
Is not equal even to your child, you are sacrificing all the bonds for your child
But you are not sacrificing all the bonds for the sake of the Lord
Therefore, your love on the Lord is not real compared to your child
The Lord expects only one bond with Him and not any other bond
See Sakthuprastha, who sacrificed his food and food of his family
They were not eating for the past ten days in that severe draught
If they do not eat that food their lives will leave their bodies
He sacrificed the entire food spontaneously with happiness
When Shankara left His mother He was so happy to go on the mission
You be in the place of Shankara and not in the place of His mother
His mother was weeping to leave Shankara but Shankara was happy
You should get the grace of the Lord like Shankara directly and not
Like the mother of Shankara indirectly, you must yourself win His grace
Do you want to achieve His grace because you are mother of Shankara?
Everybody stands with his or her isolated account before the Lord
The account of other soul is not at all affecting your account
Every soul is individually and independently judged by the Lord
When the gross body is dropped all these relationships vanish
You cannot claim that the Lord should bless you
As the wife of some sacred soul or as the mother of some other sacred soul
When Shankara left the home He advised her to concentrate on the Lord
And not to think about Him, the mother did so and is salvated
The mother got the salvation by her effort and Shankara encouraged that
We say that the son of a professor got good rank because he was his son
This does not mean that his son was given good marks due to the professor.
This means that professor helped his son by teaching with special care, Therefore, you should come to the mission of the Lord and your bonds
Should weep, you should be aspiring for the reverse situation
After leaving this gross body there is no recognition of any other soul
When Abhimanyu died and reached the heaven Arjuna, his father
Was taken by the Lord and Abhimanyu did not recognize his father
I told that the mother of Shankara got the salvation because of Shankara
That does not mean that she got the salvation just because she was His mother
She spent all her rest life in the devotion of Lord Shankara and for this
She got the salvation, don't think that she was sitting in her home
And went on seeing the T.V., and cinemas and at the end claimed
The salvation because of the single qualification that she was mother of Shankara, as mother of Shankara, she received best preaching from Him
That preaching helped her to have firm single-minded devotion
Thus Shankara was responsible for her salvation through His divine knowledge
One has to lift his or her own soul on his or her own effort only
No other soul can lift any soul except the super soul that is the Lord
Gita says the same "Uddharet Atmana Aatmanam", When Mandanamisra was
Walking out of his house leaving his beloved wife, Ubhaya Bharathi,
She gave farewell to him with immense pleasure and she also took the sacred
Orange robe and walked out as another saint, she was a great scholar
She knows that she will not get salvation because her husband is a saint
Therefore, she was happy that her husband realized the truth and is saved
But by this she is not satisfied because her husband can save himself only
And not her, therefore she walked out as a saint for her own upliftment
When Lakshmana was following the Lord to the forest, the mother
Of Lakshmana was very happy because her son is saved forever by following
The Lord in His work, Valmiki writes this as "Sumithraananda Vardhanah"
It means Sumithra the mother of Lakshmana was feeling very happy when her
Son is following the Lord to the forest, in fact she should weep in that situation
Since her son need not go to the forest and Rama only has to go to the forest
But she knows that Rama was the Lord in the human form and so was happy
Similarly, Ubhaya Bharathi knows that Shankara was the Lord in human form
Therefore, she was very happy to leave her husband for his eternal welfare
Ubhaya Bharathi should be an example for all the wives in spirituality
Only in doing rituals, which lead to temporary heaven, the wife has her share
But in spiritual efforts no soul has any share with the other soul
Therefore, Gita says that the soul should uplift itself by its own effort.
The Heaven is related to Pravrutti and in rituals only wife has share
The Brahma Loka or the divine abode of Lord is related to Nivrutti
In Nivrutti every soul is independent with its own account only.
When Yajnya valkya was leaving the house having the red robe,
His wife Mythreye accompanied him telling that he is dear to her
Then Yajnya valkya replied "Atmanah Kamaya Sarvam Priyam"
This means "every worldly bond is based on selfishness only
The wife loves her husband because he is the means of her happiness
The husband loves his wife because she is the means of his happiness
If you really love me, leave me alone so that I will love the Lord
Without the obstruction by your attraction and I will be saved for ever
If your love is real and not selfish, wish for my permanent welfare
I love you really because I am leaving you so that you will also
Love the Lord without the obstruction of my attraction and
You shall be saved for ever". Maitreyi realised the truth and
Renounced the world by taking the orange coloured sari.
There is no distinction between the souls by way of sex or age
Or caste or religion or nationality in this spiritual path.
All these are related to the external gross body only and not to soul.