Would you forgive your spouse after he/she forget about you like this ?

me and my wife have been married for 3 years. Me and my wife get along great overall but recently she gave me grief for not trusting her with anything. Me as a person, I am very self reliant and I never ask my wife for anything big or small and pretty much never confide In her because I hate being vulnerable as a man. But I got a couple of good reasons for not relying on my wife. 4 months ago, my car needed to have it's clutch replaced so it was at the shop and it was there for a week and a half because the parts were not available so I did not have my own car at the time. My wife works from home sometimes and she said I could use her car if I wanted to but I said no because I don't like using stuff that doesn't belong to me so I pulled my big boy pants up, sucked it up and used public transport. The commute to work was longer but why should I complain. I am a man, I have to deal with it without complaining. . But my wife insisted one day that she would pick me up from work. I said no I do not need her to do that but she insisted so I rolled my eyes and accepted it. So after work I was waiting on her but she never showed up. I called her but she never answered and I was pissed. Especially because the bus came and left and there wouldn't be another bus until 30 minutes later. Out of pure luck, a long time best friend of mine happened to be driving by the area in saw me. He pulled over, rolled down his window and told me to get in. I got in and he asked me what the hell I was doing standing there. I explained everything to him and he told me that if I he was me he would divorce my wife and it's messed up. You don't offer service to someone and then forget.

I got home and guess what, my wife was asleep on the couch. I yelled at her Hello !!!! She woke up and panicked and realized her stupidity. I sarcastically told her: thank you very much for picking me up at work and not leaving me stranded in the freezing cold like a homeless dog. You are such a supportive wife. I appreciate you a lot. Thank you very much. She then tried to apologize but I shut her up and said: no I do not wanna hear it. And then I took a shower and slept in the guest room. It took awhile for me to get over it. She apologized again and to get over with I accepted her apology even tho deep down she probably doesn't mean it. She wanted to make it up by picking me up from work everyday and not forgetting but I told her NO. She tried to make a promise that she won't forget but I laughed at her.

Recently she gave me grief for being overly independent. In about 2 weeks from now, my mother will be admitted into the local hospital on Monday for a major surgery (not gonna say what surgery because it's personal) but on that very same day, I will be at work and me and my coworkers will have an important meeting that unfortunately I can't afford to miss so I won't be able to take the day off to take her to the hospital. Note: my mother and father are divorced so she lives alone. And my other brothers will also be very busy. So I called my long time best friend and he immediately said: no problems mate. I'll be there. My wife then told me that she can take her day off to take my mother at the hospital but I laughed at her and said: yeah ok. On the day that you are supposed to take her the hospital, you'll sleep In and forget to wake up and she will be left standing in front of her house. You not gonna do my mother dirty just like you did me. That is a NO NO. you disrespecting me one thing but the thought of you doing my own mother dirty makes me sick to my stomach. My wife got pissed and told me that I am still holding that against her and she is sincerely sorry for what she did and I need to let go of the grudge. What the hell is her problem? How would you deal with this situation ?