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Omming like crazy here & hoping for calm to return soon.

To cut a long & excruciating story short, I believe I have lost the battle to salvage my elderly mother's (fairly meagre) resources for the benefit of her ongoing care. As usual (the story of my family) my mother has caved into my sister's demands & needs, believing she (my mother) will be properly looked after. I know she won't, but there's nothing I can do about it. (story of my family). Oh well, I gave it my best shot. I know my mother will be complaining to me again (story of my family) before too long about how badly she is being treated, but frankly, I don't want to know anymore. Sad

Now, how to regain some peace & calm & put this awful mess out of my mind?

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Oh MsOlga, I'm so sorry you're going through all that. It must be hard for you.

Hugs and hopes for better times.

I'm feeling bla today. Full moon, PMS, pain in the butt kid, still single and if I had a tub of ice cream right now, I'd eat the whole thing.

Hoping things are better for you today MsOlga!

Ohmmmmmmmmmm..................

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Thank you so much for your kind response, Montana. I appreciate it very much. Very Happy

Yup, it's been a pretty hideous time & I'm still getting over it. I have never been exactly "close" to my mother or sister, but this last episode makes it even harder to simply get along with them. I'm so sick & tired of being called on after each new mess & I have no doubt there are more (quite serious) messes to come. I'm just going to have to (try to) say that there's nothing much more I can do to help. I wish I could say "So could you now please leave me out of your lives altogether...?" but .....

So how are you, possum? What's new? Are you working, or about to work again soon? I do hope so!

How does your garden grow?

And how's Uncle Fester? He's leaving you in peace now? :wink:

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msolga,

Back on the 15th of October, you asked if I am the famous Anne Overboard. [Memo to self: Someday I must learn how to make those quotation bubble things.]

The short answer: No. She and I live on opposite coasts of this continent.

The last time I saw a posting by Ann Overboard was during the final closing hours of Abuzz (in 2002), when after long absence she stopped by to say hello and express her regrets. I remember that she was planning to write a mystery novel.

I do miss her witty posts and ripostes and her precision at tactfully puncturting the puffery with which some people self-inflate.

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msolga wrote:

Omming like crazy here & hoping for calm to return soon.

To cut a long & excruciating story short, I believe I have lost the battle to salvage my elderly mother's (fairly meagre) resources for the benefit of her ongoing care. As usual (the story of my family) my mother has caved into my sister's demands & needs, believing she (my mother) will be properly looked after. I know she won't, but there's nothing I can do about it. (story of my family). Oh well, I gave it my best shot. I know my mother will be complaining to me again (story of my family) before too long about how badly she is being treated, but frankly, I don't want to know anymore.

Now, how to regain some peace & calm & put this awful mess out of my mind?

Aaaaaaarrrrgggghhhhhh.

Hoping you have had some success with the mess.

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msolga wrote:

Omming like crazy here & hoping for calm to return soon.

To cut a long & excruciating story short, I believe I have lost the battle to salvage my elderly mother's (fairly meagre) resources for the benefit of her ongoing care. As usual (the story of my family) my mother has caved into my sister's demands & needs, believing she (my mother) will be properly looked after. I know she won't, but there's nothing I can do about it. (story of my family). Oh well, I gave it my best shot. I know my mother will be complaining to me again (story of my family) before too long about how badly she is being treated, but frankly, I don't want to know anymore.

Now, how to regain some peace & calm & put this awful mess out of my mind?

Ooooohhhhhh.... MsO. Breeeeaaaaath

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What a pleasure it is to be in dialogue with two Oz buddies in something approaching real-time, thanks to my being a West Coastian of night owl proclivities. Let those who hang their hats in Europe and the eastern parts of North America give way while we frolic with abutting time zones.

margo, you spoke favorably of a story from the oracle. (Aw, shucks - thankee kindly, ma'am!) I sometimes think I have more often been called an orifice than an oracle.

msolga, I've been reading your posts describing some of the family difficulties you have been enduring. What comes to mind is that schoolchild-Latin saying:

Illegitimi non carborundum - or Don't let the b*stards grind you down!

or to quote a favorite line of mine from Edna St. Vincent Millay:

"Life must go on - I forget just why."

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Aa wrote:

What a pleasure it is to be in dialogue with two Oz buddies in something approaching real-time, thanks to my being a West Coastian of night owl proclivities. Let those who hang their hats in Europe and the eastern parts of North America give way while we frolic with abutting time zones.

margo, you spoke favorably of a story from the oracle. (Aw, shucks - thankee kindly, ma'am!) I sometimes think I have more often been called an orifice than an oracle.

msolga, I've been reading your posts describing some of the family difficulties you have been enduring. What comes to mind is that schoolchild-Latin saying:

Illegitimi non carborundum - or Don't let the b*stards grind you down!

or to quote a favorite line of mine from Edna St. Vincent Millay:

"Life must go on - I forget just why."

They're great!

On the blacker side:

Résumé

Dorothy Parker

Razors pain you;
Rivers are damp;
Acids stain you;
And drugs cause cramp.
Guns aren't lawful;
Nooses give;
Gas smells awful;
You might as well live.

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Aa wrote:

msolga,

Back on the 15th of October, you asked if I am the famous Anne Overboard. ....

...The short answer: No. She and I live on opposite coasts of this continent.

NOW it comes back to me, Aa! Idea

You are the renowned Aa, words person extraordinaire! How stupid of me to have forgotten that! (Duh!)
I put it down to too many things cluttering up my brain over the last few weeks. Oh double duh, msolga! Rolling Eyes

Lovely to be talking to you. An absolute pleasure! Do stick around! Very Happy

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dlowan wrote:

Aaaaaaarrrrgggghhhhhh.

Hoping you have had some success with the mess.

No, Deb, I have been rather a flop, sorry to say.
I suspect that my sister now controls my mother's $$$$ ... a situation akin to putting Dracula in charge of the blood bank, as they say.

When the $$$s vanish (all too soon, going by The Lessons Of Family History) I will not be able to help out, because (unless I meet & marry a gullible old sugar daddy very quickly - an idea which does not appeal in the least! Laughing

) I simply won't have the money.
This is not some new family game, BTW. It's been going on since I don't know when. Sigh. My designated role is to mediate when the $$$ vanish & things turn nasty & desperate. Msolga, the voice of reason! Rolling Eyes

But I'm not going to do it this time. (The worm has turned! Very Happy

) I'm divorcing them! Ha. At least I'm going to distance myself from a looming mess I can't influence or change. How's that for a compromise? Very Happy

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littlek wrote:

Ooooohhhhhh.... MsO. Breeeeaaaaath

I am doing my best to breath, k! It helps - you're right!
And this morning walked something like 10k along a river (in wildly windy conditions! Crikey!) with my closest friend. Breathing, breathing, all the way ....
And now I'm playing a very soothing meditation tape. Sounds like a monastry here! Laughing

How's that? Very Happy

Oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooom

Hey, beautiful photographs, k.
Did you take them?

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msolga wrote:

dlowan wrote:
Aaaaaaarrrrgggghhhhhh.

Hoping you have had some success with the mess.

No, Deb, I have been rather a flop, sorry to say.
I suspect that my sister now controls my mother's $$$$ ... a situation akin to putting Dracula in charge of the blood bank, as they say.

When the $$$s vanish (all too soon, going by The Lessons Of Family History) I will not be able to help out, because (unless I meet & marry a gullible old sugar daddy very quickly - an idea which does not appeal in the least! ) I simply won't have the money.
This is not some new family game, BTW. It's been going on since I don't know when. Sigh. My designated role is to mediate when the $$$ vanish & things turn nasty & desperate. Msolga, the voice of reason! But I'm not going to do it this time. (The worm has turned! ) I'm divorcing them! Ha. At least I'm going to distance myself from a looming mess I can't influence or change. How's that for a compromise?

On ya!

It's extraordinary how often this happens.

I had my dad do an enduring power of attorney (and I refused to have it be to me, it was to a profesional) because of fears about what my brother would do.

Two friends of mine have had to get legal with siblings who were stealing from the aged parent.

It's awful.

And soooo hard to be tough when the **** hits the fan.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Msolga)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

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dlowan wrote:

On ya!

It's extraordinary how often this happens.

I had my dad do an enduring power of attorney (and I refused to have it be to me, it was to a profesional) because of fears about what my brother would do.

Two friends of mine have had to get legal with siblings who were stealing from the aged parent.

It's awful.

And soooo hard to be tough when the **** hits the fan.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Msolga)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Yes, I'm now hearing a lot of similar stories, Deb. It's sort of hard to believe people can be so revolting, but ......

Yep, it is going to be tough when the **** hits the fan. But, the thing I can't understand is: how can my mother allow this to happen to her for the 755th time? Confused

Hasn't she learnt anything from the previous 754 episodes? Apparently not. The Game continues!
Her $$$$ is not a fortune by a long shot, but it's all she has left. I told her not to worry about spending every last cent of it on the best care. If she doesn't take up the option (of an excellent place) by tomorrow it'll be gone. Oh well ..... <sigh>

Thank you for the big hug! I needed that. Very Happy

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I didn't know you had a brother, Deb! Surprised

You haven't mentioned him much (at all?) before. Perhaps for good reason?

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msolga wrote:

I didn't know you had a brother, Deb! You haven't mentioned him much (at all?) before. Perhaps for good reason?

Oh yeah. Very good reason. Half brother. (That's not the reason, btw!)

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dlowan wrote:

msolga wrote:
I didn't know you had a brother, Deb! You haven't mentioned him much (at all?) before. Perhaps for good reason?

Oh yeah. Very good reason. Half brother.

OK. 'nuf said!

Are there any others?

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msolga wrote:

dlowan wrote:
msolga wrote:
I didn't know you had a brother, Deb! You haven't mentioned him much (at all?) before. Perhaps for good reason?

Oh yeah. Very good reason. Half brother.

OK. 'nuf said!

Are there any others?

Only my dead sister.

Are people still related when they are dead?

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dlowan wrote:

msolga wrote:
dlowan wrote:
msolga wrote:
I didn't know you had a brother, Deb! You haven't mentioned him much (at all?) before. Perhaps for good reason?

Oh yeah. Very good reason. Half brother.

OK. 'nuf said!

Are there any others?

Only my dead sister.

Are people still related when they are dead?

This particular person, yes. Very Happy

You've written quite a lot about her over the years, Deb.
Your sister was such an important person in your life.

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msolga wrote:

dlowan wrote:
msolga wrote:
dlowan wrote:
msolga wrote:
I didn't know you had a brother, Deb! You haven't mentioned him much (at all?) before. Perhaps for good reason?

Oh yeah. Very good reason. Half brother.

OK. 'nuf said!

Are there any others?

Only my dead sister.

Are people still related when they are dead?

This particular person, yes.
You've written quite a lot about her over the years, Deb.
Your sister was such an important person in your life.

Yes...she was. I think she was as important attachment figure as my mum.

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Yes. It certainly sounds as though she was from your words.

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