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Please help me decide between A life in the EU vs Bali

 
 
Reply Thu 14 Apr, 2022 10:12 am
I am a 51 year old white male and am suffering from a little self-inflicted mind game.

I am also currently living with my current girlfriend in a common-law partnership in a country in the EU. I have been here 1 month and need to start working soon and have to stay 5 years to get the EU passport.

I also have the opportunity to live and work in BALI. I am so drawn to the different lifestyle there that i am leaning towards taking my things and moving there. My girlfriend understands what i want and she has agreed to letting me go, but then the relationship is understandably over.

If i choose to stay here for 5 years to get my passport, I will be choosing a somber clinical lifestyle over a fantastic tropical (but uncertain) lifestyle in Bali. Obviously here, there is a functional government and infrastructure. There not so much.

I am really drawn to Bali as i love the motorcycle way of life, the weather and the people.
Here i feel out of sorts and it feels like everything is black and white and routines.

Please give me your inputs.

I would ESPECIALLY appreciate inputs from you guys out there that have lived and worked in the EU and perhaps Bali as well.

I dont know what to expect from the EU way of working and living.

It just feels like it will cost me 5 years of my life to get the passport - whereas i could be having a great tropical life for that same 5 years in Bali.

Thanks so much
 
engineer
 
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Reply Thu 14 Apr, 2022 10:42 am
@elusiveman,
I think if you read your post, you already know the answer. You don't seem all that enthused about your girlfriend or your prospects in the EU. Might as well follow your dream.
elusiveman
 
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Reply Fri 15 Apr, 2022 03:22 am
@engineer,
thanks for your answer.
what concerns me is that leaving to bali will be sacrificing a great future here, albeit one with a girl im not really into.

I am torn between secure future vs a happy fun life and possibly uncertain future..

any insights into that dilemma?

thanks again
Linkat
 
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Reply Fri 15 Apr, 2022 10:36 am
@elusiveman,
elusiveman wrote:

thanks for your answer.
what concerns me is that leaving to bali will be sacrificing a great future here, albeit one with a girl im not really into.

I am torn between secure future vs a happy fun life and possibly uncertain future..

any insights into that dilemma?

thanks again


What are your options if you go to Bali and find it really is not working for you? Would you be able to go back to the EU and your secure future?

What would keep Bali from being secure? And do you have multiple options there? Also, maybe doing a research before you go - i.e. trying to secure a job any sort that would keep you on your feet might help you feel less risky.
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neptuneblue
 
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Reply Fri 15 Apr, 2022 10:41 am
@elusiveman,
elusiveman wrote:
with a girl im not really into.


Ok, that's honest. But hurtful.

Have you explained to her that you're using her? I'm sure she'll help you make a decision to leave after that.
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izzythepush
 
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Reply Fri 15 Apr, 2022 10:55 am
@elusiveman,
Toss a coin, when it's in the air you'll know which way you'll want it to land.
Yalow
 
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Reply Fri 15 Apr, 2022 04:21 pm
@izzythepush,
I'll take that advice next time I have a decision to make...
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