The problem is, I personally have heard the word toxic from several people.
Yeah I get it. I'm a blunt and highly pessimistic person. But why is it that the people who called me toxic were the very ones conspiring to push me away?
The boss at a library I worked at. After manipulating me by telling me to "think of myself as the boss and give her ideas (which it turned out she was more than happy to steal)", isolating me from coworkers thereby giving me extra duties, working me to the point where I messed up more often, working me harder yet cutting my hours.
A girl in the same place. Who broke my heart time and again, finally leaving me frustrated with her.
Yeah, I know. I'm blunt and pessismistic. But I'm also a fairly honest person who needs (and probly deserves) some friends. Instead for the last two years toxic people have told me I'm the toxic one, when they literally socially distance themselves from me. Funny fact. You know when this COVID thing hit? It was on the eve of my frienship breakdown with this girl. So I literally have decided to blame myself for the entire world. Everyone here is welcome to join the bandwagon. "Crucify!" you can say.
Or maybe... we can start to maybe more truly kind and trusting, to let people talk about what is worrying them, and instead of talking about "fixing" the forum by being more exclusive, we can do so by making it like the place I'd originally envisioned the library to be. A place for people to hang out in, to talk openly, to share their troubles with no judgement. Especially no judgement about the word 'judgment' and not dropping the 'e'. Will we sometimes get in heated arguments ? Yeah, but that's something not offered in the physical world, a lobby where you can kinda push through your hangups.
My mom and dad fight alot. But I wouldn't think of trying to shut down
ttheir arguments. It's important for people to vent feelings or they don't get resolved. The left vs right stuff on this forum is often censored on orher other forums, to the point where people feel they never have a place to feel welcome. If my parents weren't allowed to talk through their problems, we'd probably have a worse problem.