You're a very industrious hard working person,you're incredibly well organised and sound like an excellent provider.
So why do you spend all your time complaining about other people?
I think I know, the qualities I just mentioned are all very admirable qualities, but they're not qualities that make one likable.
One wouldn't go out for a beer with someone because they're organised, or a good provider or hard working. That's not how people choose their friends, they want good listeners, good sense of humour, someone who doesn't judge, can keep a confidence.
You talk a lot about church and family,you spend a lot of time at events where people are under some obligation to attend like church events or family occasions.
That's why you're so pissed off with everyone else, they aren't as hard working, organised or responsible as you, but they have no problems making friends.
You're upset because you don't feel that people don't recognise your worth.
Maybe the solution isn't Boxer's from Animal Farm, working harder but listening more and condemning less.