Do you pay for convenience (letting someone else do what you can do yourself)?

Thank you Dr. Izzy for your astute diagnosis. Do I pay on my way out?

No, everyone else does.

I agree with you. Fresh is always better. No telling how long those veggies have been chopped, packaged, and flash frozen till they get to the store.

Let me clarify, I'm not saying no one should pay for the convenience of not having to so something as someone else assumed I was trying to see what the reasons someone would do it. Sure, if you have the money and it's not hurting your pocket, be my guest. I'm just saying for me I wouldn't do it. My wife and I have a joint account for the household bills but we still keep our own personal accounts so what she does with her money is up to her. But that doesn't mean I can't say something to her from time to time.

I think part of the reason you're getting this reaction is that it could appear to be a rant about her because of your other posts about her. Some of us got that it wasn't necessarily about her, but if you want to avoid this reaction, speak in general terms.

Many here broach an idea, complaint, vent, pet peeve, etc., without mentioning names. If your issue is a general one, you could do that.

I was just using my wife as an example. There are other things that she does, that waste money in my opinion, that I could list here as a "pay for convenience " issue I love to cook, so in our fridge I have several jars of those "Better than Bouillon" veggie, beef , and chicken base pastes. I love them for the ease of using them. All you do is boil some water and add a teaspoon of the base to 1 cup of water and you have instant broth. My wife will still go out and buy a big container of veggie, beef, or chicken broth for whatever recipe she decides to make. Again, this isn't a rant about her but the fact that she spends money on something we already have in a different format. To her boiling water and scooping 1 teaspoon out of the jar to make broth takes too much time. She would rather go buy the very watery broth. This is just the cook in me coming out. he gets angry when she goes and buys ingredients only to come home from the store and I tell her we already have what she bought. In her mind, everything should always be on the front when she opens the cabinet. She won't ask if we have this or that, nor will she move a few things to see if we have it already in the back. To her that's too much work. However, when I pull out the ingredient she just bought then she's mad that she spent money on something we already have.

Again, I'm not ranting about her but I am using her as an example. Most people who cook on the regular pretty much know what ingredients or spices they already have. And like me, if she asks if we have something I can probably tell her where in the cabinet it is located. Same with our deep freezer. She doesn't think she should dig down in our deep freezer for a particular meat because (a) that's too much work and (b) why is it not on the top when I need it? Everything can't stay on the top. Again, we're talking about a woman who confesses to not knowing how to even make a grilled cheese sandwich.

I'm just asking what you pay a a convivence for to not have to do something you can easily do for yourself.

Yes you are.

I've been away for a while so I've just caught up on all this. You've created about 20 threads in the time you've been here, and almost all of them are for the sole purpose of hanging **** on your wife. Nothing she does is right, nothing she says is right. Maybe she is the terrible person you make her out to be but I would really love to hear her versions of all your complaints. I suspect they would be pretty different to what you've been telling us.

The thing that strikes me the most is that in all your posts you haven't said one nice thing about her. Admittedly I did just skim some of them so I could have missed it, but all I could see was constant complaining about her.

Surely she must have some good qualities?

He won't answer those types of questions. He just wants to brow beat her into submission.

Now actually, that WAS a rant on her. It went from her buying pre-chopped onions to a) not wanting to use your bullion because she's too lazy (although it's more work to get in the car, drive to the store and buy ready-made broth), b) not looking for things in the cupboard and freezer, and c) buying ingredients you already have.

I now think you made this post to show how superior to her you are because in every single post, you point out how lazy, unreasonable, demanding, unloving, unfriendly, asocial, etc. she is. Do you not see that?

I don't expect a response because usually when you get called on something you just go away for a bit then come back with another example.

This post was not about paying someone for things you can do yourself because you've agreed with others here it's sometimes more convenient; it's really just another rant about your wife.

If it's not a rant on your wife, don't use her as an example. Use a neighbour or other family member.

If he was your neighbour would you let him get to know you?

I'd probably pretend to be French.

I'd pretend I didn't hear or see him. He might rant on me about how I wash my car or have someone mow my lawn or don't take my recycling out regularly.

Being deaf helps as well.