Good answers.
I don't see it as using someone because the person is not in any way taken advantage of, meaning that the person is not merely treated as a means. I don't think many people would deny that they have been in a position where they feel like they need to impress someone so that they could like you. Now, I think that usually when you are trying to impress someone, you appreciate the being of the other person. If you are merely trying to impress someone so as to use them (meaning of use is to not form a form of mutual relationship with them) then I don't think it is right. It is preferable I think, when being nice, to be nice because it is right. Yeah, well there's my opinion.
Quote:A secure person does not need to impress others. He is not concerned about impressing. He simply is himself. When someone attempts to impress others, he is using the other person to (falsely) inflate his own ego.
Phoenix, I kinda agree with what you said, even though our ethical philosophy might not be the same. However, I think that even the most secure person has felt like he or she needs to impress someone; maybe I'm mistaken here, maybe it's just a flaw of mine I need to fix.