Newly divorced woman flirting with much younger man

Did you hide your boyfriends from your kids? Or did you abstain from intimate relationships?

Exactly Max! Bitter!

Ángela, you can ignore Neptune... and I suggest you do. You can't get her to stop responding, that's not how this place works.

Thanks Max.

The only thing I've suggested to the OP is to not flaunt her indiscretions in front of her kids and x. If that's something to ignore, well, that's extremely bad advice.

Obviously that's what her ex did to her. It all makes sense now.

No, we had respect for each other. Things like this did not occur.

Oh a perfect world. How wonderful.

You're newly divorced. And you're not thinking as clearly as you should. In 6 months, this will be a blip on your radar. But not if you make it impossible to live down.

There's plenty of other people. Just be wise about it and keep it away from your kids and x.

Just think about what you're doing.

If you had such respect for him, why did you have to keep things hidden?

So you are on the record advising people to ignore those who do not share your opinion. Remember that when you are on the politics threads.

I have taken everyone's advice into account here. I appreciate people disagreeing with me if it's done respectfully. Saying don't do it every 5 minutes is not OK. After all of these replies, only 1 person gave me the advice that I was seeking (thank you for that!) That's really sad. People's intentions are not good.

I think there's a difference between:

- "I came here to take part in a political discussion, but I don't agree with this person's opinion about it, so I will put them on ignore"

and

- "I came here to ask for advice on a personal question, and I made clear what I already decided to do, and what I'm still wondering about and would like advice on. This person insists on giving me the same reply, over and over again, to the question I didn't ask. They keep on doing so long after I explained, several times, that this isn't the question I am asking. So I'm going to put him on ignore because, while they're free to express their opinion, dealing with it is not a productive use of my time here."

Well said...thank you!

I disagree. But, hey, she'll learn.

You are not wanted here. Can't you take the hint?

Honest question, how do you decide that difference? When should you ignore those you disagree with and when should you debate or at least tolerate them?

I think part of the problem here is that sexuality is fraught with the historical/cultural/emotional baggage each of us has gathered and carried with us through life. I don't think I have ever seen a discussion on sexual matters that has not featured discord or disagreement. And folks are often passionate in their opinions. Pretty clearly, such discord is likely to arise where the culture a person has been raised in has strong tendencies towards suppression or control of sexual behavior but that's a much larger discussion.

All of which is to suggest that each of us ought to:
1) try to be forgiving of others who disagree
2) unless they keep harping at you with their moral outrage in which case the best strategy is to ignore them or, my preference, kick them in the balls
3) trust your own values

That's tough and I think it depends on your personality. No one deserves to be disrespected though.

Does that mean that if someone is heartfelt in their opinion that you think it would be worth respecting even if you disagreed?

(Welcome to A2K by the way, I see that you are new.)