Re: Men are the New Women pt. 371: The Man Date
sozobe wrote: Do you guys go on man dates?
By the definition in your article, yes. But I suspect it's not really comparable. This distinction between a date and a non-date hangout is much less pronounced in Germany than it seems to be in America. For example, it usually is perfectly non- alarming for Germans our age if their partner goes to see a movie with his ex. From observing the Americans I know, it would be a pretty big deal for you guys, and it's considered good form not to do it. It seems that in America, certain ways of socializing are considered strong evidence of mutual romantic interest, even if the socializing would work just fine even without such interest. As a result, pairs -- man-man, man-woman, and probably woman-woman -- are missing out on perfectly nice opportunities to hang out together. And they're doing it for no better reason than to avoid any embarrassment that might arise from mistakenly signalizing romantic interest. It must be a minefield out there, and this is one aspect of moving to America which I'm
not looking forward to.
sozobe wrote: What are they like?
Fundamentally the same as having dinner, watching a movie, or walking in the park with n>1 male friends, or with a female friend I am not romantically attracted to. Meaning that we talk about work, problems with girlfriends, exhibitions we've seen or want to see, etc. Lately most of my male friends have become fathers, and it has become practically impossible to have a grown-up conversation about anything but babies. In this regard men really
are the new women.