Then be better than just about everyone else in your high school.
I understand all about context. I understand joking situations. I understand you want to say and believe I have no idea what Iâ€™m talking about.
I also understand that you arenâ€™t sitting there with no panties and a short tight skirt.
You asked for opinions and advice, and you have someone who has been through these experiences and many more. I have no horse in this race, and you are going to do exactly what you want.
Because I have the life experience, I also know you will disagree with me on all points now, but later on youâ€™ll think about this, and look around at how people who respect each other generally get along much better, and have much more satisfying relationships.
You are in high school, and are only recently past the stage where if a boy and a girl like each other, they punch each other in the playground.
Youâ€™ve got nothing to lose, so try this experiment for a couple of weeks...
Stop saying â€ś**** youâ€ť to this guy, and perhaps to others too. When he says â€śsuck my dickâ€ť say to him something like â€ś you know, Iâ€™ve been thinking about it, and I realize I donâ€™t like it when you say that anymore. Could you not say that?â€ť
Start acting like you deserve respect, and you will get it.
Heâ€™s saying this stuff because as a boy heâ€™s still more immature than girls the same age. But you can let him know that it would make you happy if he started acting a little more like a man. Whether he then â€ślikes youâ€ť is another matter, but he will have more respect for you.
In a few years, none of the kids except the worst losers will still be saying things like suck my dick to members of the opposite sex. Theyâ€™re going to be the ones who never realized itâ€™s time to grow up and put that kid bullshit aside.
Might be nice if youâ€™re one of the first ones who realize itâ€™s really grade school stuff saying that sort of thing, and itâ€™s time to get real.
Who knows? Once youâ€™ve got it down that itâ€™s not all that great saying douchebag things like **** you or suck my dick, youâ€™ll realize that someone who may not be able to give up that kid bullshit yet is worth your time.
What do you imagine? That youâ€™ll just wake up one day and go to college or off to a job, and youâ€™re going to suddenly just not say that stuff anymore? Might as well start practicing now.
If youâ€™re old enough to like a guy, youâ€™re old enough to realize the kind of conversations youâ€™re having now is really kid stuff.
Be better than that.