@maxdancona,
Would you be more supportive of Pelosi of she were a minority? Lesbian? Non-binary? Dirt poor?
Regarding her political career, some of it was possibly from her upbringing. Her father after all, Thomas D'Alessandro, was himself a member of Congress from.1939-1947 and Mayor of Baltimore (Maryland) from 1947-1959. Those are years when Pelosi was learning about life and how government operated.
Would you have been happier if you learned she was a stay-at-home mom? Or if she had been a manicurist at Helga 's House of Hands?
I don't particularly like Pelosi, but, you haven't expressed any real reason for why another would be better suited for the position at this time. Given the fact that the Dems need a proven fund-raiser, leader and a go-getter for the next two (at least) years as we head towards the 2020 elections she is probably the best choice. If in 2020 the Dems maintain their current control, then a meaningful conversation can take place.
You haven't even indicated who would be better (in your view).