@shyguygamer1,
shyguygamer1 wrote:what people have said to me nobody seems to think I did anything wrong
Are you sure the people you're consoling your concerns with aren't blinded by courtesy and friend/family bias?
shyguygamer1 wrote:As far as attachment, I get attached to everybody fairly easily, I've always believed in being transparent with people and working things out/reconciling.
I'm not sure that you are being transparent with yourself.
shyguygamer1 wrote:Like the pastors family is always preaching love one another, dont judge, show grace. I'm just not seeing it.
So? The pastor is being an unchristian hypocrite? Nothing new there.
You're implicitly answering your own questions and concerns but you're just not seeing the sunshine on a cloudless August noontime while standing naked in the middle of the Sahara freaking desert.
You have no choice but to move on without the pastor's family while considering the church pretty much off-limits and a place of your troubled past. Whether the pastor is morally or ethically in the wrong? Finding out the answer to that? How will that help you in the long run?
What you described in your original post may not be illegal or ethically wrong (that's why everyone is confirming this to you) but it seems you're teetering on the edge of becoming a high risk stalker (illegal activity, etc...).
Move on with your life. Find another base for moral, spiritual, etc... support. This well of compassion has run dry.