Amuse me, esp. the ladies (need your opinion)

Hi Joah,

The wedding is in May. This is early February so you have lots of time (honest) to play. Go to the hairdresser, try something you think you might want for the wedding, and if you like it redo it in April, otherwise try something else...have fun now, be creative, you still have time to change it before the wedding.

Joa, I like your natural color, it seems to have highlights of its own. Can't say I would be happy with that highlighting job, though.

Was the hairdresser talking on her cell phone while she did it, by any chance? It's all one big blob....is that how it's supposed to look?

I mean, I may be a BIT behind the Fashion Times, but cripes it seems to be only on one side of your head! I'd have it removed, if modern technology allows.

Seems you already have nice reddish highlights. Your hair looks like mine AFTER I color it, sort of....mine is very dark brown, rather boring I think, so sometimes I make it more reddish. My recommendation: Leave your hair natural and let it add to your picture of bridal purity.

I just had 5 inches hacked off yesterday....went to Fantastic Sam's & the first woman wouldn't cut my hair because it was too long....then they said they couldn't perm it because it was too damaged....then I got someone willing to cut it...

When I showed her a picture of a straght-across cut, she showed me another of a feather cut, and said my hair would look more like THAT....I said, well could you just cut it like THIS....showing her the original picture again.

So she took about 30 seconds to hack it off. It's an OK cut, I suppose, but she spent the whole time talking on her cell phone or chatting with other employees. The only thing she said to me was, "Move your head this way...."

Folks in salons are hardly ever nice to me. I don't know why! Maybe because I'm really just a kitten, I don't know.

Joa...your hair is gorgeous! Such great texture and shine! I agree that the highlights were not done well, though. Last I heard, "chunky" highlights were out...it's the smaller highlights woven in & out through the layers of hair that are the latest trend. And in several closely related colors, not just one. Find a stylist who understands about hair color matching skin tone. For your wedding, I'd think you'd want something that makes you glow...but still looks natural. Just my two cents...

Aw, BorisKitten, that's just horrible.

Funny how different this can be by region/urban/suburban splits etc. The chunks (not that the techs call 'em chunks anymore, but I do) in the bigger cities in the northeast and in Europe are getting bigger and much less natural looking. Lots of bands of totally unnatural colours across the bottom 2 - 3" of hair. Bitty bits of hiliting/streaks just won't do. We'll be able to tell you're not from town. As I noted in my original post - we'd think you were a big hair non-urban southern type if you showed up here with something too discreet.

I love looking in the competition books for hair stylists/technicians. Different strokes for different locations. Very different.

I imagine that the sight of the bride's hair from the last haute-urban wedding I went to would make most people on this site just about stroke out. An intensely edgy cut, between chin and ear length - with an almost ultra-violet rinse over the bride's naturally dark brown hair. Nothing natural looking about her hair when the candlelight hit it. With a conservative Jewish gown and robe under the chuppah in the temple.

That IS funny, ehBeth. Big chunks (I call 'em that, too) were all the rage here for a couple of years, but it is phasing out. Unnatural colors are still big among the avant garde, but I don't think most brides are comfortable with that for weddings. You're right, I would have cringed at the purple hair with the conservative gown. Can you imagine how she's going to feel about her wedding pictures in a few years?!

Oh, my life is just So Hard!

A favorite quote of mine, from a welding company employee: "Why is MY life so much MORE difficult than everyone else's?"

She might think she looked cool, though...

What matters most is a person's carriage/ expression -- if someone feels that they look exactly the way they want to, that's going to reflect on everything.

She wouldn't have asked sozobe, if she felt comfortable
with the color.

ehbeth, chunks are out in the southern California corner
as well, dto. for Europe who never went into big chunks
in the first place. "Punk style" fashion has mostly the
tips in a different color, that's all. My friends in NY don't
know abouth chunks either, and a look in fashion
magazines will tell you the same story. They are definitely
out, and thank God they are. It looked good on very
few girls.

The German/Brit hair mags were showing 'chunks' last week, CJane, when I spent about 4 hours going through them.

Like I said, it's funny how very different it is in different areas. Montreal and New York seem more tied to what's happening in Germany - which can be avant-garde, particularly in re hair and eyeglasses (German glasses are downright crazed) - Toronto's always at least six - twelve months behind that. The French generally seem to show more conservative (to my eye, which is very non-traditional) colours and cuts (but have some great edgy eyeglasses), and the Brits, in the larger centres at least, have some interesting scissorwork going on.



The violet-haired bride was gorgeous - and she'll love her pix - they'll show her being thrilled on an amazing day - and looking absolutely amazing. Her grandmother and the rest of the family from Tel Aviv loved the look - her new in-laws from the Toronto suburbs were under-impressed.

I was talking about the violet-haired gal, CJ, in response to Eva's last line.

German glasses ARE downright crazed. E.G. and I have a shorthand about bespectacled physicists... "Gay?"/ "German."/ "Oh!") I don't know many straight American men who would wear purple plastic square glasses with embedded glitter (or something.)

LingMAO at the shorthand, soz - you can always spot the German professionals at the airport by those glasses.

One of the German fashion mags I occasionally pick up often has these little inserts that you're supposed to put a pic of yourself behind to pick the perfect glasses/hair. I can pretty much NEVER imagine wearing any of the glasses - and I have (for a Canajun) pretty weird glasses.

No really. Thanks for everyone's opinion. I just knew I hated it from the second it was done. ...but with her and everyone else saying they LOVED the colors in my hair, it made it hard.

This wasn't some small hairshack no one knows about either, but where most of the college girls go and refer others to (just trying to say... most people do trust them).

I saw her foil my hair, and from all the times I've done it before (when I was 16, I went nuts with dyes), she looked to be doing it correctly. ...but man, this was the first time I actually took a pic of my head and saw how big that chunk was.

I agree with those that say "it just looks wrong."

My appt. is Tuesday, so I will post new results that night.

Hopefully they can lo-lite it back to something you'll like, Joahaeyo.



I'm not sure it would even be fair to call that area a chunk - more like a swath of colour.

lol

I'll ask her about lo-lighting.

This is a nice (I think) German variant of something we're seeing a lot of lately. Several layers of colour, going horizontally. One of the women at work has her hair done so that the top/front is blonde, then if you parted her hair from ear to ear (at the front and then at the back) - that segment is scarlet, and the last section (if you part hair ear to ear around the back of he head) is black.

When she wears it straight and down, it looks like the red and blonde are simply layered on top of the black (sort of the shades of brown in the left pic above). When she lets it go curly, the colours all kind of mix up wildly - and in a high ponytail - it looks like a neapolitan icecream bar, sorta.

I prefer it more tone on tone - but I love the concept.

I love the one on the left!!! I wish I could do the left one, but I always end up straightening my hair every morning when I have any wave/perm/loose curl in. ...and the wave in my hair naturally drives me insane.

I will DEFINITELY get a full cut after the big day. The hair can't be cut due to my updo for the wedding.


Here is my picture:





My hesitation in posting it is just that I don't want "one" person (real life not internet personna) to find out where I go to relax and unwind on the net. I am doing my best to help this obsessive jerk move on. Please do not repost my pic in another thread, so I can keep track of erasing the link later. Since I no longer use hosting companies he is aware of ...hopefully this is safe.

Oh Joa, I like the second picture with shorter hair. You're
such a cute girl and the dark hair suits you so well.

Yeah ebeth, the pictures you're showing are from one
of 2 leading german fashion magazines. You might note
that none of the models have chunks. I think what we're
seeing are light effects from the camera, not serveral
layers of highlights. www.brigitte.de and www.freundin.com
are the magazines. I've subscribed to one of the mags for years
and I never seen chunks.

The Brits on the other hand, are more adventurous with their hair - always have been.

To completely get off topic: *sorry*

German glasses are as funky as you want them to be,
yet their conservative styles are still the best. www.fielman.com and www.Rodenstock.com are leading, and their glasses are as thin as the frame. Here in the States they can't seem to get the technology right. If you're nearsighted, the glasses can get quite thick.

thanks!

I like my hair shorter too!!! This is the longest it's ever been, and it's driving me crazy. My mom is all excited since she can't grow her hair this long, but I've got crappy hair and it's dragging my face. *fart*

ughhh. what we women do. i'm going to make my fiance wax his eyebrows or something terrible.

Joa, you are so pretty! I love your hair just the way it is naturally.

Great idea w/the eyebrows! Reminds me of how I thought, after my first Mammogram, maybe I should invent a Scrotogram to see how guys would like it! Ha!

What I remember from my wedding day: We're in Las Vegas, all in tux & gown, standing in the hotel lobby, waiting for a limousine. DH says, "Should I go out and look for it?". I say, "I am Bride. Bride does what she is told." DH says, "Well, you never did BEFORE!"