@PUNKEY,
Hmm, to be honest I don't think that he's doing it on purpose, or perhaps he is to hurt me the way he's hurting. I just genuinely think he's confused as well, he loves me and loves the life we have together but is terrified he'll be hurt again like he was before.
The looking up exs was my stupid fault and it wasn't the first time and that's why he doesn't trust me, I've told him I wouldn't do it before and then did it again. I've since deleted and blocked everyone so that I won't do it anymore but he's saying it's too little too late kinda thing.
The problem is that every time we talk about it he's adamant he's going to leave and then we go to bed and the next morning everything is ok again, except minus any type of intimacy.
Our relationship as it is now is exactly the same as it was, we laugh and joke and go out together and spend time with the kids. The only difference is we don't kiss or cuddle at all.