@glitterbag,
Wow, I feel like maybe I'm painting him in a really bad light. I have been in a proper controlling and abusive relationship, the first one I've ever had. It sort of shaped my idea of what relationships are supposed to look like and what they are not supposed to look like. Perhaps it makes me a bit of a doormat now in my relationships and that I will agree with.
I'm not delusional enough to believe that I will never love again, I've loved plenty and for that I'm very grateful. However, I do think there is still a lot of love there with this guy and no matter what he is going through right now I truly believe it can be worked through.
I'm never the type to just let something die, if this problem had been going on for months than perhaps I would have to look at things again but I just haven't given it enough time. I wouldn't say he's controlling me or being abusive in any sense. Nor do I think that he's walking on egg shells waiting for me to do "something" that was so nicely pointed out.
I love him and I know he loves me and we have a great life together so I just need to see where it goes from here. I do appreciate all the advice though.