Val, if my wife wants to serve me dinner, then I would accept it not as being dominant to her but as being helped. If she doesn't want to serve me dinner, then I would serve myself dinner, and not try to force her into serving me dinner. I don't see it as "dominance."
Quote:What you describe here reads more like what they call "projection," not "dominance." Domination can be a sad side effect of projection. I would concur with Bo and Cyracuz, the natural desire in nature for one animal or 'primitive' to dominate another does stem from a natural sense of fear (for survival), but then again, fear also fuels submission. If you can overcome fear, you can overcome the 'instinct' to be both dominant or submissive, unless of course, it's bedroom play, and enjoyable for both parties.
So fear, unhealthy view of oneself, and ignorance all contributes to this dominance thing.
Quote:So it is easy. Fear is in your heart, the one thing that is hardest to dominate. It is easier to dominate other people by using guns than to dominate the power that is in your heart. But isnt that our true task?
Yeah, I also think that our task is to have control over one's emotions and desires. Conquer yourself.
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dominance was a survival mechanism from prehistoric times, allowing the physically (or, very occassionally, mentally) superior to hold a possition of power over more submissive community members, thus creating a heirarchy by which they all knew their 'place'!
[unfortunately, it is still practiced in 2004 going on 5!!! by the 'primitives' in our society.]
I see dominance as an evolutionary leftover that gives us neither truth nor security. The want to dominate can as easily provide chaos as it can provide order.