Question about friends list

He tightened up his security settings. He could potentially also be posting to his wall or the like and using the FB option to send a notification to everyone but .... I do that with people who are on my friends list but who seem to comment about everything and are often just plain annoying when they do so. Not saying he thinks that way about you.

So, is he up to something? Only he can answer that. Therefore, it's time to have a conversation, but not about FB. Make it about your relationship, is everything okay? etc. Don't spend too much time on it or invest it with a lot of meaning - and don't repeat the process until at least several months have elapsed. Otherwise, it feels like you're just taking the relationship's temperature all the time and a lot of people (myself included) find that to be smothering.

Also, consider his behavior in all other aspects of the relationship? Is he kind and attentive, or secretive and distant? It's entirely possible he changed a setting and did not realize the implications of doing that. FB is lousy with privacy settings and their explanations are clear as mud. It could be perfectly innocent.

Thanks so much! You are right, I do need to have that conversation!! I am still confused though as to why when one of my friends goes to his facebook page to see his friends, I am not listed as a friend. In fact, a few of my friends have done this and none of them see me listed as a "mutual friend" anymore. However, I see them listed as a "mutual friend" when I look at his friends list. Also, all my friends can see all his posts, I'm the only one who can only see the public posts. It appears that I am able to comment, like, and post to his wall still. Anyway, it's the friends list thing that has me really confused how he did that. It looks to everyone else like I am not on his friends list. THanks!

Bumping this up - does anyone know what he did that makes it so that I don't show up on his friend's list? When I am logged in as me, I can see that we are friends. But all my friends say when they log in and look at his Friends list, I am not listed there. How was he able to remove me from his list?