@ Krumple: I don't wish nor want to be a baby mama to no man as I stated earlier I want to be a wife not no baby mama I will not accept it. I don't want two just one kid in the future..But 2-3 years from now if we decide to have one at that time but that's up to God. I am not going to judge him because of the number of kids he had way before me that would be kinda shallow of me and that's something I am not going to be. Holidays won't be split three ways. He is starting the process of gaining custody of all his 4 kids. If it doesn't work out with him I will keep my kid and continue with my life and raise my son or daughter.I know that his record isn't quite spotless but I feel that since we are together his past should not be much of a concern as long as he does as he supposed to do for his kids & Be a Father to his kids...That alone shows me he is not a quitter when it comes to his kids he will do anything for them that is one of the reasons I fell for him on a deeper level. I don't mind coming 3rd in his life that's how I want him to be..God 1st because he gave life to everyone and he can also take it away... His Kids & Family are 2nd because that was way before me I won't stand in the way of that he's very family oriented and I'm 3rd... I know where I stand in his life and I wanted a man who has his priorities in line and a great father to his kids if any, know a good woman when he sees one and know how to keep her once he saw she's a keeper..
Plus, He is 30 yrs old soon to be 31. He has two kids each by 2 women/bms.. He was there for both from beforehand in the relationship with her from start all the way through childbirth and beyond that so I know he isn't the type to leave if a baby was made planned or not. He takes care of his responsibilities as a grown man. So who am I to judge him for his past mistakes he made..I made mistakes also nobody's perfect.
I could see your point if he had 4 different baby mamas. But even then that would be his past I would be skeptical about having kids with him until I knew he was ready to settle down and be with me. But I still wouldn't judge him or make a decision based on his track record that was before I even came in the picture.
PS: Some men not all men but just some don't step up and take care of their responsibility as a man and father with the woman he laid down with and made that baby..So he does step up to the plate and take responsibility and be in his children lives.
I hope I answered your questions you asked me and hope I also answered ones that may have been a thought but forgot to put in your reply...Thanks for replying also.