There is a dilemma here:
- One the dilemma's bad choices is to manipulate someone into doing something which we believe s/he will probably refuse to do - if given the option -.
- The alternative bad choice is let a person to run into some sort of trouble which we believe is real danger, but which s/he dismisses as of little concern.
The dilemma may frequently appear in the family sphere, for example: in the relations between spouses, or between parents and adult/teenage/infant children. But may often also appear in the professional sphere, for example, between doctor and patient, lawyer and client, ...