At the VA they can get away with anything.
Lostsoul, frankly... you're credibility is slipping. The scenarios you write about and protocol you describe is not how VA hospitals are supposed to operate... that is not within the charter of VA Hospitals is proscribed.
FWIW, on a daily basis I speak with Veteran who before his retirement from a 20+ year career...was an assistant director of 2 or 3 different VA hospitals. Furthermore, he has visited Wash and represented VA at the Federal level advising them. I've repeated what you wrote, and he concurs there is something missing from this story.
He suggests: Follow up with VA Patient Advocate
Youve said nothing about seeing the Patient Advocate. Report these events to the PA office and do the follow up.
If you don't get success from PA ...and, if what you're saying is 100% true, and this hospital operates as you wrote, you need to go over their heads, which may include reporting to Senator.