Okay accept dark energy asserts a normal gravitational effect on normal matter and energy but not itself. Next accept 80% of teh Universe is made up from it - so there is alot of it!
Adding those two assumptions tells you two important things:
1) The galactic layout / shape / position of all this energy - where, geographically, it resides in the cosmos is critical
2) Unlike normal matter / energy it won't clump because of gravity into suns, planets, people, trees and rocks etc. - it will probably spread our diffusely very, very, very evenly - unbelieveably so.
Visualise this in our own solar system. Most of the Mass is centred in the Sun, then Planets then asteroids, then dust, until you get to a vaccuum where there is generally 1 - 3 hydrogen atoms per cubic metre. But the dark mass is spread evenly and might account for significant equivalent gravitational mass. Next step out side our solar system and proceed to our galaxy, the milky way. There is alot of empy space - potentially chock full of dark energy exerting a gravitational pull.
Now step outside our galaxy and even the galactic cluster containing the Milky Way as one of many galaxies. Between it and the next glactic cluster is a vast amount of empty space - again possible full of dark energy - hence gravity.
As the Universe expands allow the darm energy to expand roughly in proportion with it - allowing it to be evenly distrubuted but still bounded by any edge to our Universe. Well this means dark energy is spread evenly throughout, but normal matter / energy tends to be clustered more towards the centre. So the gravitational effect of dark energy - by location and volume - tends to pulls things out towards the 'edge of the Universe' whilst normal energy / matter tries to pull things all back together back towards a big crunch scenario. Remember from my other thread - gravity isn't quantised - so its effects can apparently go on towards infinity - rather than dwindle to nothing once your distance from a gravitational source is so vast your gravitational force is below the lowest quanta of energy a photon can have.
Finally my own thoughts on what dark energy may be and why it alone is evenly distributed:
M-Theory and superstring symmetry theory postulates we live in a 10 or 11 dimensional rality called a membrane. We commonly observe only 4 of these dimensions space (3) plus mass (=energy) (1). In our reality with our perception time is wrapped into spacetime, although it might be something very different within our reality and across other membranes, but I digress.
The other 6 or 7 hidden dimensions may be so tiny (think Planck level small 10 ^ -35 metre) and subtle its hard to every observe them. But one a galactic of universal scale these dimensions could significantly affect our percieved reality. Possible what we call dark energy is small periodic leakages of regular energy and mass into and out of these hidden dimensions. So I postulate spacetime isn't static - it may be an equilibrium point of normal energy and matter leaking into and back from hidden dimensions. This leakage maybe appearing to us as dark energy and dark matter. Dark matter might just be s-particles or symmetric particles (s-electron, s-neutron, s-proton etc) from string theory.
So that is a theory on what it is (or how it appears). Why is it evenly distributed where nothing else is? Because it's the very fabric of our reality itself - it itself is our dimensional infrastructure, so it has to be everywhere it is by definition. This also adds weight (pun intended) on why dark energy doesn't directly effect itself. Those hidden dimension have their own rules for how they interact - what we postulate as dark energy and dark matter might just be leakage from our realities hidden dimensions!
As I said this is my intuition - arrived at this morning - and if I am right I want the Noble prize please!!! Call it the Kendall conjecture