This isn't advice, just observation of my own six days in New York in 2003 and the befores and afters.
My trip was by me for business reasons, real, not trumped up, but also an excuse to see a place that was from a major year in my youth that I desired to see, badly.
This was around the time of the Crones, on abuzz and a2k, whom I already was very pissy about, and one of them wanted me to see her house in Pennsylvania. I had trouble being nice, said no, but with what was going on, all the arguing and my own long time needs, skipped connecting to people I wanted to meet. Back then, Joe Nation and Frank. Which for me would be a still.
But, through the crone connection, I also got to meet Diane and Roberta, two people I love. And through abuzz and a2k, I met Paola, whom I had talked with for years. She and I and lightwizard used to ramble and grumble and spat. The morning I met her, at the Met, and shortly in the almost empty cafeteria, she told me her condition was terminal.
My point - figure out what you want, Margo, your trip.