@hawkeye10,
I do not know what congregation your family belonged to during depression.
LCMS -Missouri Synod was and is not as reformed as ELCA.
I really do not all the denominations in Mid West there is also Wisconsin Synod.
The LCMS and the ELCA disagree about the nature and authority of the Bible.
The LCMS believes that the Bible is actually the Word of God, and therefore, is totally truthful, reliable and free from any error.
The ELCA, on the other hand, avoids making statements that confess the full truthfulness of the Bible. It holds that Scripture is not necessarily always accurate or trustworthy in all its details and parts. The ELCA tolerates and encourages methods of interpreting the Scripture that presuppose that the Bible contains error and is unclear about various doctrinal matters.
But as far as I know the Missoury Synod do not condem a person who commits suicide. Somemight,,,,