@Thomas,
Quote:refrain from preferring family members and other loved ones over "outsiders". That is discrimination, no matter how warm and fuzzy our feelings about motherhood, family, and other such bigotry.
I couldn't disagree with this more.
Imagine if I told my daughter, "I love you the same as I love any other child in the world". She would be crushed. This isn't ethical at all. Instead, I tell my daughter, "you are the most special girl in the world to me", and I mean it. It is the fact that she is special to me that makes our relationship so meaningful.
I don't give a crap that Mother Theresa loves me (although since I am someone and she loves everyone I am sure she does). It means nothing to me.
My kids, my parents and my close friends love me in a way that is meaningful. There love is for me, as a unique individual, in a way that isn't extended to every human on the planet.
If you are looking to minimize suffering, getting rid of meaningful relationships isn't the way to do it.