8 year old boy with social problems and poor attainment at school

Reply Mon 12 Dec, 2011 12:53 pm
I am becoming very concerned about my son. He has very few friends and is being bullied at school. I think this is caused in part by his attitude toward others - he does not seem to empathise with people and I believe he is a "tell tale" from what I have observed. He does not seem able to listen to anything people say to him - for example when speaking to him and immediately asking what I was talking about, he will make a guess which, no matter what subject, is wrong about 90% of the time. His attainment at school is very poor in all key subjects and his sister (5 years) is beginning to overtake him with reading. His teacher is regularly phoning me or my wife to report misbehaviour and has stated that she has not taught a child more difficult to motivate.
We have spoken to the special educational needs teacher at his school (about 1 year ago) but we are still waiting for an appointment at the child development centre. My concern is getting progressively worse because he is getting further behind at school and the bullying is starting to really bother him - he is not eating properly at home now because he is being called fat (which he categorically is not) and he is making up illness to avoid going to school. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I can do to help him?
P.S. we have tried going to his GP!
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Reply Mon 12 Dec, 2011 04:39 pm
Contact the school ASAP and request an educational assessment. Tell them you suspect LDD. Sign the permission papers for testing.

There may be educational laws that require this to be done within 30 days, depending on the state where you live.

Learning disabilities are very evident at this age. He may also be depressed, have slight austism or be ADD.

In any case, the school MUST test him. You have enough adult concern to get this started.

I am surprised the GP didn't suggest he be evaluated through the schools.

In any case, fiind out as much as you can about special ed services in your school district. You must know the "system" in order to get your child the best education as possible, in the safest environment possible.
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Reply Mon 12 Dec, 2011 05:15 pm
What Punkey said....and be as pushy as you need to be. I don't know how the system works where you are but as a general rule the squeaky wheel tends to get the oil. Don't be intimidated by school staff - this is the time to go into 'extreme parenting' mode.
Edited to add an additional tip: when you're facing assessments etc I found it helpful to write your own detailed report first - what your concerns are, how long you've had them, examples of his behaviour etc. I did this for my son and I was able hand each person I dealt with a copy and not worry that I was forgetting important details each time.
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