@boomerang,
boomerang wrote:
Just last night I read an article in National Geographic about the teen age brain. About how risk taking and peer influence is so important, about the evolutionary necessity of it. You might find it interesting:
http://ngm.nationalgeographic.com/2011/10/teenage-brains/dobbs-text.
I agree that play is the work of childhood and I have long been bothered by the "build a better baby" movement. I also agree that too many kids are required to jump through fiery hoops to earn their parent's approval.
Quote:I have encouraged my children to be are literally on their own in education
I'd like to hear more about how you are doing this. Do your kids attend school? Do you fret over their performance or not? Do the teachers think you're crazy? Do other parents think you're crazy? (I ask because I've been there.)
Let me see if I've got this straight: You think the goal of education is to create a group of service class citizens, "slaves" as you call them, who are not smart enough to question their lot in life. That this is what they mean by "compete in a global economy" -- to get our own population to do the type of jobs we are now outsourcing to other countries, jobs that require some skill but not too much thinking. You believe the government wants to pay outsourced work wages to our population, and have them be happy for the work, as a means to keep them in control.
With my last child, who is now in a high school completion program in the local community college, she was mostly home schooled having little opportunity for interaction with others...She is a work in progress...
With my older child, I discouraged group projects because there were too many lazy asses out there unwilling to hold up their end of things... When met with a group project, I told her to do it all yourself, and give the instructor two sets of homework; one with your own work, and one with the group work, your contribution clearly evident... But in so doing , I hardened her to the need to motivate others to their best effort in order to accomplish larger deeds, so that now she is often inflexible with others as I often was in my work life, demanding specific performance from each... And I have worked with good motivators, and I realize I am not a good motivator, but in time came to recognize that people were a lot like a box of tools, and that you have to work with the ones you have, and in fact, to make the best use of them...
There is no point in expecting perfection from people when no one is perfect... Good motivators often complement an average job to get better performance... I am afraid that my child, those she is intelligent, and still gets great grades, in her work situations reveals her general disatisfaction with life, as I myself did... I could not be good enough myself in my own eyes in my trade because I stood in the shadows of the great, but job performance is only one part of the total picture... It is great relationships that make great forms work... Like that great baseball player Ti Cobb, perhaps, said at the end of his life: I wish I had made more friends.... No less than baseball was ironwork a vicious, dog eat dog existence...
Only one thing could warm up those freezing beam in my memory, or cool those blazing with summer heat, and that would have been companionship which I too often rejected for a better, and more professional job... And my being here to tell you of it is, at least in part, a result of a professional attitude, because I am alive and have all my limbs and have a pension because of attention to detail and the willingness to put my self under a curse for a good job...
People live in , and spend their days in buildings put up by people little different from you, or I, and buildings fall down because of two things: Engineering that does not account for the forces of nature, and poor workmanship... If I had anything to do with it, my buildings never fell down on my account... I did what was required morally and physically to get the job done, and I was competative, even when it hurt me socially; but no one, no greatest individual does anything alone...
That quality teachers most respect, is that quality most required by life, and that is team building, Cliquing... You see; if I were a great motivator, I could have inspired many ironworkers to greatness... In the game of life I won by default because so many did not show up, or otherwise self destructed... It is not a fraction of what I may have done were I able to touch the soul of humanity in each, and pluck the heartstrings of their deepest desires...
Everyone needs recognition... Everyone needs love, affection, caring, and in short, a relationship... Iron is soft, and people are hard... Iron is easily conformed to the will of man, but people have their own paths from which the seldom stray, and never without purpose...That ability to make anothers path my own has always been missing from my life, primarily because I have no defense against the pain of other, nor of my own... I avoid the essential relationship because I bond so easily, and with that, I feel for others, and I hate it, because pain seems to be the universal human condition... And while I have figured out how to over come my own pain and function, even trriumph, the lessons of my experience are lost on most, but their pain is not lost on me..
Excuse my making a short story long once again... Competion is but a part of the whole, and we miss the fact that so many of our most successful are effectively anti social...