The Theory of Diminishing Sensations

[CENTER][CENTER]The Theory of Diminishing Sensations
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[CENTER][CENTER]By: Dylan Campbell[/CENTER]
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The Origin of this Theory
I first began to explorer the sensation of love with a beautiful young Finnish girl named Betty. Without her I truly don't know if I could of even explored the basis behind this theory, for that I dedicate this to her.
Ours was a very fresh romance the topic of love and hate came up. We started to discuss how we each have only said I Love You to one or two other people (not including one another because saying I Love You to someone prematurely is no good). When we began to discuss the levels of love and how towards everyone and everything it feels different and less, this is what lead to the theories formation.

Diminishing Sensation towards love
Betty and I began to talk about how great and powerful love is. Now this part is hard for you to understand if you have not experienced fresh love before. I ask you now if you have ever experienced fresh love. If yes, then continue reading this section, but if not it may be more difficult to comprehend the sensation of fresh love if you've never experienced it first-hand, though it certainly isn't impossible.
I think it is safe to assume that for the most part all of my current readers have a family of sort who they love and say that they love them on daily visits or whenever you do see them. Now I don't know if you have the same feeling towards your family as Betty or I did, but the point still remains. What love felt stronger, the one towards your parents or the fresh love that you gained by someone? Now you have to uncloud your feelings of breaking up or how angry you were with them when the relationship ended provided that it did. So now that that is all said and done I assume the fresh love did feel stronger. Not even a little bit stronger but a lot. One could probably even say exponentially stronger.
Why is it that this occurs? Well I propose the answer for you: love slowly weakens and becomes less strong over time. When you were little, whoever you had as your parent figure you loved them very much. You loved them to a level that I can only assume is the same level as you do with your new and fresh romance with whoever they were. Due to the inability to analyze babies' sensation of love we may only be able to assume for the time being. Maybe in the future this can be tested fully. So now the question is why did your love change? What weakens it?
Love diminishes over time; that is all what I can say about it. What causes this I believe to be patterns. Over day to day life patterns and cycle form that begins to bore your mind. Due to this it becomes less strong because you see each other all the time. Now when you are with the person who you gained this fresh love with the sensation begins to fade. At the beginning of your relationship you tend to be so forgiving. Maybe they don't have a characteristic that you find key, but you don't care as much at the beginning because with the fresh love being so strong you are just happy when you are with the person. I assume that with me too and other people are the same; that with fresh love as long as you are just sitting with the person that is giving you the fresh love you are happy. But then you seem to notice in many couples that doesn't last anymore. They seem to be more distracted with that episode of The Simpsons that they have seen at least 5 times than each other because that feeling of love is no longer as strong.

Why relationships end
After a period of time most relationships end, whether or not it takes a few days or a few years . Granted, not all relationship end, but that topic will be placed in later on. Instead this portion is why relationships do end. I believe they do end because with the fading of love and romance you start looking somewhere else because with the fading void of love you have to substitute it for other things. This is when the faults in your lover actually begins to bother you. When your relationship is fresh the imperfections of your lover still exist but they don't bother you, but when love starts to fade out, a void is left that gets filled with the actual true characteristics of the lover. Now that all of the lover's characteristics are showing up you realize that they do not truly have everything that you may or may not want in them. Why it takes so long for the mind to actually catch on to all of these true details isn't because you are blind or dumb like people tend to say after a break up, but it is all because you were distracted. The human mind seems to only be capable to process so much information about someone at a time and for some strange reason which I have not uncovered yet love outweighs everything else. I believe this is the true meaning of love is blind. It is due to how love "blinds" you from the truth.

Is it preventable?
I don't quite know for sure if diminishing love is preventable or not. Personally I don't think so, but I do think it can be slow down. I believe that it can be slowed down by not allowing patterns to form with your lover, and not saying I love you to someone all the time I think can be helpful. This is what I think helps diminish your love with your family. Since you say I love you so much the sensation of love slowly has less of a meaning, but once when you only use it on a romantic moment or something that keeps love from having a strong meaning and can help boost the power of love and keep it strong. Also every couple that is still going and lasting strong over years that I talk to say the reason why their love has stayed is not just due to sex (which does play a very strong role), but also they give each other Me Time. Because with that you end up not only getting to preserve who you are which makes you happy but then also you long for each other which is a very powerful emotion. Everyone has experienced it where they would do anything if they could just hold their lover one more time.

Diminishing sensations on a daily scale
I tend to spend a fair amount of time with small children especially my 2 year old cousin Vincent Alm. Whenever I walk around with that little kid and every little kid, as soon as they see something simple like a car they get so happy. Even though they have seen it hundreds of times it still makes them very happy, but to me and you we look at it and just think to ourselves "yeap, that is a car." There is no excitement in our tone or anything of that magnitude: it is just a car to us. Though, back when we were all kids we were just as excited when we saw that same car again. This is my final argument towards Diminishing Sensations. Not only does it happen with emotions but it does with objects too. We slowly just stop giving a **** when it comes down to this kind of stuff.

Conclusion
When we finally look at it and take into account Diminishing Sensations towards objects you have to ask yourself "can I slow that down?" I actually don't think you can. I really don't know of any way that you can make that car you see daily put a smile on your face, but that also leaves this with a question that at the moment I can not answer. That question being; if you can't slow down diminishing sensations towards an object such as a car, then why can you slow it down towards an emotion such as love? I don't know actually that whole section on prevention could be wrong. I just don't know. I want to leave this with a question for you that you can answer yourself.

Contact
Please even if you completely disbelieve this theory I want to hear what you have to say and why you disbelieve it or why you do think I might be on to something. So please email me sometime at [EMAIL="[email protected]"][email protected][/EMAIL]