As you say, pain can be very revealing and it does colour your views.I can still remember those sickening moments of despair as she told me she did not want to see me again and the next one and the next.Now i cant even remember their names,those who i thought would kill me with a broken heart.
Lifes journey is interesting to say the least.Now as age takes its toll,I watch the young lovers and remember those sweet terrible times.
you know, i really have to wonder if it affects all the same or are some immune even when young? does the first romance have to break our hearts because if it didnt we would never be able to love? i can remember the feeling at 14 of knowing how really alive i was fro the first time because of my very first love story.
the other funny thing about age is that it becomes even more intense, but wisdom allows us to recover sooner i think. i remember my mother after my father died (about 28 years ago) had a boy friend. she used to call me every sunday and relate to me all their trials and tribulations-good lord, like being in high school!
yet i know several stories of people who never recovered from their first romance. one young man was in the army around the time of korea and while he was away his girl friend (as he was told by someone not really looking out for his best interest) cheated on him. it may have been only a rumor or a lie, but he took it as truth. he lived his whole life alone after that, insofar as he never married or had another girl friend. he died at the age of 50 from cancer.