@Aedes,
Agree; bravo Aedes,
Aedes wrote:This may be rhetorical, but I think it's about using language in a way that emphasizes how we're in this together.
Precisely! As a species, we have very similar needs. As a people (since the U.S. was mentioned) we have a shared culture and heritage. Despite this, there is so much polarization that it boggles the mind. And yes,
language is the best place to start; using it properly, absent of bitterness and without presumption (along with a pinch of deftness) emphasizes this "likeness". We're all in this together and we've *all* got the same problems. Behold yonder firemen arguing over
who tangled the hose while the Public Library burns - what a shame.
Aedes wrote:... it's also coincidentally Obama's main rhetorical trick, his "Koolaid" -- he spends very little time attacking except when his target is already so unpopular (i.e. Bush) that he barely alienates anyone by doing so. He's inclusive.
Indeed. I just hope to high-heaven that it makes a difference; that it soaks down to the enraged levels necessary to
effect a change. I suppose time will tell.
Aedes wrote:Resistance, i.e. defensiveness, is often a response to perceived offense. That's why in microscopic examples innocent arguments get blown out of proportion here. But you simmer down the arms race by talking congenially and first finding what you CAN agree on.
Yep, I one wrote a paper on Reducing Defensiveness (forgot what grade it warranted - I probably forgot that on purpose~). There are many tools one can use, quite simply, to craft their thoughts in such a way that enables productive communication.
Aedes wrote:It's difficult in the US because usually issues fall on a dichotomous political line, so there aren't very many gradations -- except in the ever important 1/3 of the country who are more or less noncommital to one party or another, and you win them over by making them realize that they're already on your side -- not by giving them the urge to defend something.
Concur - and I've about reached my tolerance level. This needless bickering between political parties (particularly as the U.S. tries to stumble its way back to financial health) comes to mind immediately. Wherein lies this need to dichotomize and vilify at just such times wherein cooperation is needed most? Sad stuff for sure, but I'll not be silent on the destruction this needless polarization bring any longer.
Excellent thread - Thanks