Reply Wed 7 Apr, 2010 01:09 pm
Lady Diane's brother died 2 weeks ago, his body was cremated. This morning the crematorium called and asked what we wanted done with the ashes (cremains) I asked what they normally do with the ashes and they said they send them to relatives or friends ($95 fee) I said we really didn't want the ashes. They responded that they would have to check with the state about procedure for unclaimed ashes and would get back to me.
This has me pondering the issue of just what should be done with someone's ashes.
 
djjd62
 
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Reply Wed 7 Apr, 2010 01:12 pm
i've opted for cremation as well, i want my ashes spread on the manitoulin island
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Mame
 
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Reply Wed 7 Apr, 2010 01:12 pm
I want my ashes to go down the incinerator - my daughter wants them in an urn. I'll be dead so they can do what they want.
farmerman
 
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Reply Wed 7 Apr, 2010 01:14 pm
@dyslexia,
They are a great source of phosphorus and potassium. This makes a really good honorable additive to ones garden. I told my wife that if she couldnt dump my ashes into Pqassamaquoddy Bay because of some real dumass law, then she should take the ashes and mix them in the vegetable garden. No sense wasting good nutrients, and, ifDianes brother was a good guy, youll remember him every time you eat asparagus from your garden.

Glad I could help, its just what I do.
sullyfish6
 
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Reply Wed 7 Apr, 2010 02:21 pm
You will be surprised about how much ashes there is!

I've got 8 pounds of ashes I have to care for from my deceased husband. Some will go around the garden and some will go into the lake we live on.

Almost a year has gone by. We will have a Swedish "Send off or Letting Go" event and scatter flowers and some of the ashes on the lake in mid May.
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mismi
 
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Reply Wed 7 Apr, 2010 02:26 pm
@Mame,
Quote:
I want my ashes to go down the incinerator - my daughter wants them in an urn. I'll be dead so they can do what they want.


That's what I am thinking.
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OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Wed 7 Apr, 2010 02:42 pm
@farmerman,
farmerman wrote:
They are a great source of phosphorus and potassium. This makes a really good honorable additive to ones garden.
I told my wife that if she couldnt dump my ashes into Pqassamaquoddy Bay because of some real dumass law,
then she should take the ashes and mix them in the vegetable garden. No sense wasting good nutrients, and,
if Dianes brother was a good guy, youll remember him every time you eat asparagus from your garden.

Glad I could help, its just what I do.
How do u feel about cannibalism ?
Phoenix32890
 
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Reply Wed 7 Apr, 2010 02:54 pm
@dyslexia,
I really don't give a damn about what is done with my ashes. Saying that, Mr. P. and I decided a while ago that the ashes would go into an urn that will be placed in a niche in a V.A. cemetery. So........................if anyone wants to visit us, (which I doubt) they could.

I have always thought that cemeteries were a waste of good real estate.
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edgarblythe
 
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Reply Wed 7 Apr, 2010 03:34 pm
When it's illegal to dump one's ashes in a river or other place, how are they going to know if someone breaks the law? A discreet little turn and its over with.
dyslexia
 
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Reply Wed 7 Apr, 2010 03:37 pm
@edgarblythe,
yeppers
Letty
 
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Reply Wed 7 Apr, 2010 04:00 pm
@dyslexia,
We scattered my son's ashes at our ancestral home. He had told my daughter that he didn't mind being cremated. He had been in the hospital almost a year without seeing the light of day, so we wanted him above the ground.
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tsarstepan
 
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Reply Wed 7 Apr, 2010 04:05 pm
@dyslexia,
Marietta's mother, her brother, Chris, and myself, we scattered Marietta's ashes [Eurodiva/Thedivaden] (illegally ...) at Carl Schurz Park, Marietta's favorite park and part of NYC.
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farmerman
 
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Reply Wed 7 Apr, 2010 05:31 pm
@OmSigDAVID,
Quote:
How do u feel about cannibalism


Can you share any recipes?
Green Witch
 
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Reply Wed 7 Apr, 2010 05:46 pm
When my great uncle died he specified he wanted to be cremated followed by a "burial at sea". He thought it was as close as he could get to a Viking funeral without actually having to burn his boat. So my great aunt, and a few of us young cousins, went out for a boat ride on a fine June day. Along with our picnic my aunt toted a big canvas bag with my uncle tucked inside. She had kept the ashes in a sort of cheap cloisonné ginger jar with a screw lid waiting for good sailing weather. At some point we slowed the boat and went to the stern. We all said our little farewells, saluted the jar with a toast of grape juice in plastic cups and then my aunt did a nice little toss into the ocean. And then we watched the jar bob, bob, bob along - it didn't sink, it just floated. The lid must have been water tight, being a screw top ginger jar that should not have surprised us, but we all just watched my uncle float away in the wake and the current. I have no idea if that jar ever sunk or washed up on some foreign beach to the possible puzzlement of anyone who might have found it.
farmerman
 
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Reply Wed 7 Apr, 2010 05:51 pm
@Green Witch,
Heres where you needed DAve and his "little friend"
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OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Thu 8 Apr, 2010 01:48 am
@farmerman,
farmerman wrote:
David wrote:
How do u feel about cannibalism
Can you share any recipes?
At our fine dining group (meeting at The Firebird this evening) our libertarianism does not extend to cannibalism.





David
farmerman
 
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Reply Thu 8 Apr, 2010 05:24 am
@OmSigDAVID,
Yet, yourdinner was someones relative, unless you dined on plants exclusively. Howver I see you more as a Meatatarian.
OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Thu 8 Apr, 2010 05:42 am
@farmerman,
farmerman wrote:
Yet, yourdinner was someones relative,
unless you dined on plants exclusively. Howver I see you more as a Meatatarian.
Most insightful, farmer!!!
I have an informal non-aggression pact with the vegitable kingdom;
thay don 't eat me, and . . .
farmerman
 
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Reply Thu 8 Apr, 2010 05:51 am
@OmSigDAVID,
Let us return to give Dys the assistance he needs at this most trying time.

Dys, I got nothin.
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