@jgiffing,
have you had any luck in finding the problem? I'm not sure what you you have, but the "mineral" tank probably backwashes at 5 gpm. The brine tank flushes at about 1.2 gpm. Are they both backwashing at the same time and day? Is it that you don't have water in the morning? or just concerned about not hearing it? It could be the mineral tank needs rebed and just can't handle 5gpm. If you have no water in the morning, I'd say it was the well, it can't keep up with the flow needed,since you say when it kicks on the pressure drops.
Is this a well? Since you mention a pressure tank, it's assumed it is. Is this a bladder tank? When you measure the pressure in the tank, is this 45psi just anytime? If it's a bladder tank it should be set at 2 lbs psi lower than the kick on pressure of the switch, this is with the pump off and all water drained out of the tank.