husker, kinda, but I think there is a more genetic/ biological basis to it than just "deciding" to take one attitude or the other. I really like littlek's analogy to weight/ diet... one person can "decide" to be thin, and they have the genetics to make that a very realistic decision, and someone else can "decide" to be thin, and have the genetics to make that nigh-on impossible. Not COMPLETELY impossible, mind you, but a much mightier struggle than the first person.
I'm with you on the analyzing thing.
Lesse if I can say more clearly what I think happens:
I think there is a brain chemistry thing that affects your general level of happiness. When I have PMS, I don't make up ludicrous complaints, but legitimate complaints that previously were as water off a duck's back suddenly really bother me. It's really irritating that I have this whole well-thought-out, perfectly valid argument for why something is not tolerable, and E.G. looks at his watch (he has a calendar thingie on it) and says, "Ah. Well, we can talk about it more in about 3 days."
But, the thing is, in 3 days it no longer bothers me. When I look back on it, my arguments are sound, there is nothing WRONG, if I was listening to someone else I would say oh, that makes a lot of sense, but it doesn't actually bother me any more.
This could go either way... I'm WAY too easy-going normally, and that's my little window of toughness, or that's a little window of Jerry Springerish unreasonableness. (Yes, I know I'm making up nonsense words that are not even particularly apt, bear with me.)
At any rate, I think that people who have a certain brain chemistry are actually legitimately bothered by things to a greater extent than others. It may just be that in 2nd grade, Christina Albertson didn't invite you to her birthday party, but MAN, that rankles. (Hi nimh!)
So I'm wondering about the brain chemistry thing. I don't think it's just genetics. So what else contributes? (I think littlek's analogy works here, too, but I'm gonna quit for a bit.)