@chai2,
i'm very good at stabbing scallops with chopsticks !
i have seen plenty of chinese - even waiters - use knife and fork - so don't see anything wrong with it .
of course there is also the method of "slurping" or sticking a large piece of meat into the mouth , biting off a piece and putting the rest back on the plate - very appetizing indeed .
finally there is the custom of biting of a piece of meat etc. and offereing the remainder to the "most honoured guest" - thanks , but i'm not the most honoured guest at this table .
but i'm not too squemish when hungry . as a teenager i lived with a farm family for a few weeks - they certainly were not rich , but hospitable to a hungry boy a long distance from home .
breakfast was a soup made from yesterday's (sour) milk sprinkled with caraway seeds with plenty of freshly baked bread on the side . a big bowl was placed in the centre of the table , we all grabbed our spoons and dug in . after the meal , the spoon was carefully licked clean , perhaps wiped on the shirtsleeve and put back into the drawer for lunch .
no harsh detergents that might harm the environment used for cleaning .
the end result : after 6 weeks of farmwork and healthy eating i had gained 15 pounds !
hbg