Women's/Men's Lounge

I don't know about separate fora for men and women, but I definitely think there is a need for a separate virtual sex forum. I'm sick of doing my bidness with the ladies in that dirty little A2K broom closet.

jespah wrote:

I voted for not thinking it's necessary, mainly because it would not be enforceable as Mods would have no way of verifying who was who. Er, who was what.

You mean you can't see us through the screen?

dlowan wrote:

jespah wrote:

I voted for not thinking it's necessary, mainly because it would not be enforceable as Mods would have no way of verifying who was who. Er, who was what.

You mean you can't see us through the screen?

Not when you keep drawing the blinds.

hawkeye10 wrote:

The only time I have seen gender segregation useful online is set asides for female survivors of male perp sexual abuse. In this case the trauma is sometimes such that the survivor can not be around males. Even this however rapidly becomes a negative, as the females who are further along in healing continually fall into the trap of treating newcomers as victims, thus slowing healing.

At A2K such a scheme would do nothing useful, and would get in the way of gender understanding and cooperation between the genders.

Your own apparent emphasis that people on dates or married are not victims - can never be? - shuts your argument off for me, Hawkeye. But I'm still not clear if that is precisely what you mean.

And yes, even us talking about this now can be a bath of pain for some readers. Which brings back my qualm, that some may need elemental solace in a kind of privacy. Abuse/rape is just one issue; I'm sure there are others.

I guess I still vote for fresh air, even though that has been taken as a program title.

There are doubtless many others, but I suspect this is simply not the forum for really dealing with intense trauma, but that there are other fora which are.

Not that people cannot benefit from discussion here.

dlowan wrote:

There are doubtless many others, but I suspect this is simply not the forum for really dealing with intense trauma, but that there are other fora which are.

Not that people cannot benefit from discussion here.

A2K is a place for healthy, highly functioning, intelligent people Those who have special needs enter at their own risk. In this environment gender segregation would not be helpful in any way. I was pointing out one special case were such a program can be helpful, as an example, not looking to open the subject of abuse and surviving abuse.

A2K is a place for healthy, highly functioning, intelligent people

A2K is a place for healthy, highly functioning, intelligent people Those who have special needs enter at their own risk.

Youse guys is all a bunch a low-rent bums ! ! !

hawkeye10 wrote:

A2K is a place for healthy, highly functioning, intelligent people Those who have special needs enter at their own risk.

When you begin making errors of assumption you end up running down the wrong tracks. There is nothing in the site description of any of the site documentation that makes any such statement. A2K is a place for everyone.

This community has a culture as does any community. A2K = straight up, no BS+ sense of humour. What the site owners intend and document is another matter all together.

Those who have special needs enter at their own risk.

kickycan wrote:

I don't know about separate fora for men and women, but I definitely think there is a need for a separate virtual sex forum. I'm sick of doing my bidness with the ladies in that dirty little A2K broom closet.

And we're tired of staggerin' out of that broom closet with knots on our head from it being shoved against the wall @ 90 miles an hour while you're fast humpin'.

I vote for the virtual sex forum. At least it'll be bigger and we can just put Kicky in the middle of the room and take turns havin' our way with him.
Yeah.....Good idea!

Virtual sex room, please!

hawkeye10 wrote:

This community has a culture as does any community. A2K = straight up, no BS+ sense of humour. What the site owners intend and document is another matter all together.

And the community you speak of decides what that culture is - not you.

Nobody knows about my secret rooftop love den.

the vote is now 26/2, so the community has decided. Time to move on i think.

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WHOA! Kicky's not alone up here!

WHO'S THAT???????