oh I don't know... I need some shoe advice. Ijust put my shoes and socks away and got out my sandals..... I will not wear shoes or socks again until maybe October unless I'm doing a wedding or in court.... my question is.... this will be my 4th year in these sandals.... is that okay?
Geeze, what a truly STOOPID question. What do the sandals look like? What will you be wearing with those sandals? Will you be wearing a belt, and if so, what color is it? Do you have other accessories which you will be wearing/carrying at the same time? Do you just own a single pair of sandals?
How naive . . .
that's why I need this advice....
Well, i don't know nuttin' about it . . . you need to ask the wimmins . . .
can't post with 'em, can't post without 'em...
Segregation is the adultery of an illicit intercourse between injustice and immorality.
Martin Luther King Jr. (1929 - 1968)
Segregation of any kind rubs my mind the wrong way.
Also:
1. There is no proof that the people you are talking to are female or male.
2. Anyone whom feels uncomfortable can be comforted by the fact that no one knows who you are. :wink:
3. Talking about things in an anonymous unisex environment may help people overcome such discomforts that could otherwise cause them difficulties communicating in their personal life.
Bi-Polar Bear wrote:oh I don't know... I need some shoe advice. Ijust put my shoes and socks away and got out my sandals..... I will not wear shoes or socks again until maybe October unless I'm doing a wedding or in court.... my question is.... this will be my 4th year in these sandals.... is that okay?
You can wear sandals until October, but you'll have to put your white ones away after Labor Day.
The idea is nutty from several different viewpoints, but I am impressed that the majority of A2K'ers agree.
Francis wrote:hawkeye10 wrote:The idea is nutty from several different viewpoints, but I am impressed that the majority of A2K'ers agree.
On what?
I'd like to see both a Men's & Women's Forum, but everyone should be able to read them
0% [ 0 ]
I'd like to see both a Men's & Women's Forum, but it should be off limits to the opposite sex (no reading or posting)
10% [ 2 ]
I don't think this is necessary. Let's leave things as they are.
89% [ 17
I don't know about separate fora for men and women, but I definitely think there is a need for a separate virtual sex forum. I'm sick of doing my bidness with the ladies in that dirty little A2K broom closet.
Chai wrote:Bi-Polar Bear wrote:oh I don't know... I need some shoe advice. Ijust put my shoes and socks away and got out my sandals..... I will not wear shoes or socks again until maybe October unless I'm doing a wedding or in court.... my question is.... this will be my 4th year in these sandals.... is that okay?
You can wear sandals until October, but you'll have to put your white ones away after Labor Day.
well I only own one pair so that's not a problem.............
reminds me of coming to canada in the fifties and seeing two signs on the pubs :
GENTLEMEN ONLY
and
LADIES AND ESCORTS
(none for gentlemen and escorts
)
Well, to approach Soz' mention of some subjects being toughies, I have had a little of a similar qualm, that not having a private forum cuts out some potential posters who might be afraid to post to the internet.
But, mostly, in my zillion years here, I see people being careful regarding the vulnerable of whatever gender. Well, most people.
And some of the best sense re some women's issues has come from men.
Or, if not every time the best sense, aspects to consider.
I think if we started different lounges, even if it was practicable, it would futz with the long time conversation, which I really like more than the ability to have some kind of separate hive.
The only time I have seen gender segregation useful online is set asides for female survivors of male perp sexual abuse. In this case the trauma is sometimes such that the survivor can not be around males. Even this however rapidly becomes a negative, as the females who are further along in healing continually fall into the trap of treating newcomers as victims, thus slowing healing.
At A2K such a scheme would do nothing useful, and would get in the way of gender understanding and cooperation between the genders.
hawkeye10 wrote:The only time I have seen gender segregation useful online is set asides for female survivors of male perp sexual abuse. In this case the trauma is sometimes such that the survivor can not be around males. Even this however rapidly becomes a negative, as the females who are further along in healing continually fall into the trap of treating newcomers as victims, thus slowing healing.
At A2K such a scheme would do nothing useful, and would get in the way of gender understanding and cooperation between the genders.
Your own apparent emphasis that people on dates or married are not victims - can never be? - shuts your argument off for me, Hawkeye. But I'm still not clear if that is precisely what you mean.
And yes, even us talking about this now can be a bath of pain for some readers. Which brings back my qualm, that some may need elemental solace in a kind of privacy. Abuse/rape is just one issue; I'm sure there are others.
I guess I still vote for fresh air, even though that has been taken as a program title.
If ya'll didn't want me posting in the dang "Relationship" threads then just say so! No need to segregate me....
*runs off to weep with hurt feelings*
fishin', do you need a man-hug?
Wow, this thread has taken off, baby!
Keep the votes and comments coming!
Quote:*runs off to weep with hurt feelings*
Awww, fishin......(((hugs)))
oh, but I have secret admiration for fishin'...
not kidding, how would I get to respect fishin', other than poster x, except by all the a2k conversation? I guess I'm anti-hive. Or sub-hive.
