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"Sorry" Question.

 
 
Eleven
 
Reply Fri 30 Nov, 2007 07:01 am
I have a question about those in this Government & Country who passionately do not wish to say "Sorry" to the Aboriginals for the wrongs of the past.

This is not meant to offend anyone, and I do heartfelt(ly) apologise if it does.

I'm just curious.

My own personal opinion is this:

I feel enormous compassion and sorrow for what the Aboriginals have been through for generations (from the time of first settlement to the 'stolen generation' and beyond). Even though I am not personally responsible for any of that, I still feel very deeply saddened by those events and the pain they must have gone through.

And I am Sorry that ever happened.

Now ....

My question is this ....

Why do others so vehmently oppose anyone (Government or not) expressing such a view?
Why can't they look into their hearts and find that compassion?
Why can't they put themselves in the others shoes for even one moment and feel their pain .... and know they wouldn't want that to happen to them?

Why is it so hard to express compassion when it would bring us all together as a Nation?

(Apologies for such a long post)
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dadpad
 
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Reply Fri 30 Nov, 2007 08:00 am
I dont know why either.

Rudd is touting an apology.
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hingehead
 
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Reply Mon 3 Dec, 2007 05:47 pm
Here's something that might interest some.

'The Games' was a mockumentary about the preparation for the 2000 Sydney Olympics (seen through the eyes of three executives in charge of everything). The context of the below clip is that these executives (this is the last episode) have fought, sneaked, gouged and plotted their way through a myriad of challenges created by the bureaucracies and corruption of local, state, federal and international goverments and sporting organisations all through the series. But finally one intractable problem has surfaced. A large number of countries say they will boycott the games if John Howard does not apologise to the indigenous people of Australia.

View on:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ig9l39DAi80
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anton bonnier
 
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Reply Mon 3 Dec, 2007 05:52 pm
Done a bit of truck~semi driving in my time... in NSW and Victoria in my early days and mostly Queensland in the latter, had a pretty good insight into the aboriginal way of life, having to stay in pubs a lot. I found, in talking to the older one's ( usually extremely sensible and proud ) they, as a whole, were annoyed with the fact that paying the dole out to their people, was and did turn them away from their "normal ?" life style and introduced the younger one's into the life style of which they had no knowledge of prior to becoming instantly- rich ?.... we can now see the consequence of those actions.
I can understand the reason for people wanting to say sorry.. a, I feel good now, one - but sorry is a meaningless word, unless actions to solve the "today" problems are made, then, and only then, when the problem has been solved, are you are entitled to say sorry.
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hingehead
 
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Reply Mon 3 Dec, 2007 06:21 pm
Sorry Anton, I disagree. The first thing you do, if you mean it, is say sorry, then work on making up for it.

My partner has worked extensively with aboriginals, in communities and while I can't disagree with your interpretations of elder speak, I'm pretty sure Mrs Hinge would want me to say that getting all your information from aborigines in pubs would be as reliable as getting all your information about Australians from Aussies in pubs in England.

I'm not disagreeing but am adding a note of caution.

For me the 'sorry' thing is about acknowledging what happened to our indigenes after white settlement, and from there gaining some sort of insight/empathy for why some of them are in situations they didn't choose to be in, as well as charting paths so that far less of their future generations will find themselves in the same situation.

As a wise man said when accused of a 'black armband' view of Australian history: 'That's better than a white blindfold'.
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anton bonnier
 
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Reply Thu 6 Dec, 2007 10:33 pm
Quote - The first thing you do, if you mean it, is say sorry, then work on making up for it.- unquote.

The problem with this mind-set is... politicians and do gooders have been saying this privately and public since Adam was a boy... I really don't see any sense for a new leader repeating this to the world again before you do anything about it, and litigastion of of the legal after all he's a politician, they are not noted for being honest.

Quote - getting all your information from aborigines in pubs - unquote.

Not true... 50 odd years ago if you wanted accommodation in bush towns ... there were only pubs. a In those days you would never see a aboriginal in a pub, even ten years ago I used to stay in a pub at Idesvold west of Bundaburg Queensland, the pub there had, a large semi covered public bar area at the rear, where the Aboriginals and work dressed whites had to drink, only whites could drink in the front lounge bar. Most of my meetings with the Aboriginals was at the saw mills where I would pick up timber and Aboriginals were employed. These are the one's I had most contact with in Queensland, where as, in Victoria, 50 odd years ago, I drove a 4 ton van and worked at installing floor coverings in all types of places, pubs, schools... even churches Ballarat cathedral for one.

I can't see throwing money and apologetic words at them will work any better with Rudd than will any of the other methods used in the past.
Had a Aboriginal friend who had a wife (Aboriginal )and 3 children, had his own business ( milk delivery ) had very little education other than state school, was adopted by a white couple when a child, he ascertained that if he had stayed in the care of his people he would never of become who he was.. so assimilation was the answer in his case... perhaps the answer to the whole problem.
So to my mind, as you said... As a wise man said when accused of a 'black armband' view of Australian history: 'That's better than a white blindfold'. Looks like Rudd wearing the wrong blindfold - armband... might be better round his mouth.

I by the way, have very little room for politics, have walked down the path they have made for Aussie for 60 years, found the better part of the path to be up hill, interceded with quite a bit of mountain climbing. Am hoping for my children and grand children sake, their path will not be to steep under Rudd. I always thought well of Rudd as a person.... Whilst in power, I think he could go a long way to improve the whole way of things for us all, but being a politician I have my doubts, especially seeing how the labour party has worked in the past
I'm not holding my breath.
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vikorr
 
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Reply Thu 6 Dec, 2007 11:30 pm
Quote:
Why do others so vehmently oppose anyone (Government or not) expressing such a view?
Why can't they look into their hearts and find that compassion?
Why can't they put themselves in the others shoes for even one moment and feel their pain .... and know they wouldn't want that to happen to them?
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hingehead
 
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Reply Sun 9 Dec, 2007 11:31 pm
Read Trudgen. Don't necessarily agree with his opinions but the oral history of white settlement in Arnhem land (as an example) needs to be widely known. People who aren't 'sorry' don't realise jack about what our forefathers did in the name of nation building.

I don't think modern germans should be apologising for the holocaust, but I would hope they acknowledge it happened and be horrified/sorry it happened.

The way some talk about aborigines reminds me of neo nazi skinheads laughing at photos in the Auschwitz museum.

Oh, and Anton, my pub comment was directly related to what you said.

This is the apology I want:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dh0MNIFezME
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dagmaraka
 
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Reply Mon 10 Dec, 2007 12:01 am
i believe in acknowledgment over apology, much along the lines hingehead outlined. apology can be a pressuring if not blackmailing element. I apologize, thus you should forgive me.... some reaction is expected in return. many communities do no react favorably to that (and i don't blame them). acknowledgment is far more fair, humble and powerful, leaving the healing process in the hands of the pained community, giving them the freedom to process it their own way.
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hingehead
 
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Reply Mon 10 Dec, 2007 04:50 pm
Dag, can you explain the moral of the Slovak fable in your sig? It's driving me nuts!
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vikorr
 
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Reply Thu 13 Dec, 2007 01:25 pm
Quote:
I don't think modern germans should be apologising for the holocaust, but I would hope they acknowledge it happened and be horrified/sorry it happened.


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i believe in acknowledgment over apology,


For Australians today, people who have done no wrong to aborigines, I think you are right dag, acknowledgement is appropriate, with recognition of the long lasting effects it has had.

For Govt, which is still representative of the same govt that enforced almost two centuries of so many wrongs without ever apologising for it, I think an apology is warranted (don't forget the final piece of law that outlawed discrimination against aborigines only came into effect in 1971, and that's hardly ancient history)
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hingehead
 
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Reply Thu 13 Dec, 2007 04:47 pm
vikorr wrote:
(don't forget the final piece of law that outlawed discrimination against aborigines only came into effect in 1971, and that's hardly ancient history)


Or that or that our legal system only recognised in the mid 1990s that aboriginal people were here before white settlement.
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Builder
 
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Reply Fri 25 Jan, 2008 06:36 pm
I taught indigenous Australians for three years in communities in the NT.

Not once did I hear mention of the stolen generation. It's more to do with activists in our towns needing to continue to bleat to justify their existence.

Children are still being removed from parents who are failing to provide care and/or nourishment to their children, or where the children are being abused or sexually assaulted.

If indigenous people were treated equally today, there would be communities without indigenous children in them at all, that is, if our authorities, like FACS, treated all Australians equally.

STD' in two year old toddlers, boys as young as seven gang-raping their own younger relatives; dole money being spent on drugs and alcohol, instead of food. Who is sorry for that kind of people? It's a national disgrace, for mine.

The real apology should be for treating them as second-class citizens, and turning a blind-eye to their total lack of care for their own children.

On the stolen thing, if a claimant can prove that by removing them from their families, their situation did not improve, compensation can be claimed.

I have heard the tales of abuse from the orphanages where some of those children were sent, and compensation would be payable to anyone who could prove the abuse, white or black.

We are all Australians. One rule for all.
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dlowan
 
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Reply Fri 25 Jan, 2008 07:21 pm
Oh for Pete's sake Builder! You only have to look at government policy papers to realize there was for some time a partly eugenics based policy to remove especially "half-caste" children from Aboriginal parents.




The government departments involved have acknowledged it, I see no reason why you cannot.


The road to hell and all that....I have no doubt people involved believed they were doing the best thing, and also that many kids were actually removed because they were living in abusive conditions.


However, to deny the terrible effects this policy has had on Aboriginal people is sheer wanton blindness.


I agree with you that it has probably had the effect of making authorities too reluctant to act in cases of current child abuse in aboriginal communities, and that the problem is horrendous in many of those communities....however, the issue is intrensely complex, and the alternative care systems are in such disarray, that taking aboriginal, or any, kids, given the care options facing them, is a fraught decision.


The things you refer to happen in the non-aboriginal community, too, you know...though I agree the prevalence is currently horribly out of control in some aboriginal communities.


I do not think that denying that is in any way helpful, and aboriginal abusers need to be held as accountable as any other abusive adults, but understanding of the dynamics in operation is also necessary, and denial of how those communities got to be that way is as dangerous as denial of the current facts on the ground, in my view.
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vikorr
 
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Reply Fri 25 Jan, 2008 07:38 pm
Hi Builder,

The stolen generation is only one aspect of govt policy that disadvantaged (and for a while, exterminated) aboriginal Australians over an almost two hundred year period.
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hingehead
 
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Reply Mon 28 Jan, 2008 04:55 pm
Builder wrote:


We are all Australians. One rule for all.


Large numbers of indigenous people continue to be seriously disadvantaged because for a long time there was (and still is) not 'one rule for all'.

What Queensland DOCS have returned a white 9 year old to her family unsupervised if they had been allowing her to be sexually abused since she was two?

But hey, keep punishing the victims rather than solving the problems.
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Builder
 
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Reply Fri 1 Feb, 2008 07:57 pm
dlowan wrote:
Oh for Pete's sake Builder! You only have to look at government policy papers to realize there was for some time a partly eugenics based policy to remove especially "half-caste" children from Aboriginal parents.


Yes, and the movie "Rabbit Proof Fence" touched far too lightly on the topic, for mine. The possibility that the facts have been clouded by time and propaganda still leaves me with little doubt that "coloured" or half-caste children were literally enslaved and sexually abused and shunned socially, in their own communities, both then and now. I've lived it.

Surely not all of the stolen generation were in this category, but many of them were, and their mothers/carers gladly handed them over to the authorities, just as mothers/carers today literally hand over the care and well-being of their charges to the school systems. Kids literally have to go to school if they want to be fed. I've seen this on several communities, and researched it for others, Deb.

Less than ten percent of indigenous homes on communities have a refrigerator, and the reasons behind that are not poverty-driven; rather, the "cultural" attitude that what's yours is mine, leads to nobody wanting food in their house because it will be eaten by those who spend their money on addictions.

dlowan wrote:
The government departments involved have acknowledged it, I see no reason why you cannot.


I acknowledge it, and personally have nothing against saying sorry. My point was, the people who stand to gain from this apology, are not those who are in the greatest need of help.

dlowan wrote:
The road to hell and all that....I have no doubt people involved believed they were doing the best thing, and also that many kids were actually removed because they were living in abusive conditions.


Yes, agreed. I also think it should still be happening today.

dlowan wrote:
However, to deny the terrible effects this policy has had on Aboriginal people is sheer wanton blindness.


Like I said, if it can be proven that the act caused no benefit to the child, at that time, or a case of physical and/or sexual abuse at the hands of the so-called carers can be established, then the courts will award compensation like they do for any such case. Paedophilia and ephebophilia cases by non-indigenes against the clergy are ongoing. This avenue for recompense is available for any person.

dlowan wrote:
I agree with you that it has probably had the effect of making authorities too reluctant to act in cases of current child abuse in aboriginal communities, and that the problem is horrendous in many of those communities....however, the issue is intensely complex, and the alternative care systems are in such disarray, that taking aboriginal, or any, kids, given the care options facing them, is a fraught decision.


Agreed. The whole system needs a massive kick up the arse.

dlowan wrote:
The things you refer to happen in the non-aboriginal community, too, you know...though I agree the prevalence is currently horribly out of control in some aboriginal communities.


I was referring to non-indigenous kids.

Indigenous communities were handed self-rule, and that failed dismally.
If I wanted to set up camp in the middle of nowhere, with thirty-odd hippy mates, and demanded a centrelink office, clinic and school be built, I would be laughed out of town. What's so special about indigenous camps? Most of them were established by non-indigenous people anyways.

dlowan wrote:
I do not think that denying that is in any way helpful, and aboriginal abusers need to be held as accountable as any other abusive adults, but understanding of the dynamics in operation is also necessary, and denial of how those communities got to be that way is as dangerous as denial of the current facts on the ground, in my view.


I've researched the topic widely, Deb. I wish I had some answers, but throwing more money at the problem will kill these people quicker than anything else I know. Embarrassed
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Wilso
 
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Reply Tue 12 Feb, 2008 01:32 am
Text of the apology
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Today we honour the Indigenous peoples of this land, the oldest continuing cultures in human history.

We reflect on their past mistreatment.

We reflect in particular on the mistreatment of those who were Stolen Generations - this blemished chapter in our nation's history.

The time has now come for the nation to turn a new page in Australia's history by righting the wrongs of the past and so moving forward with confidence to the future.

We apologise for the laws and policies of successive Parliaments and governments that have inflicted profound grief, suffering and loss on these our fellow Australians.

We apologise especially for the removal of Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander children from their families, their communities and their country.

For the pain, suffering and hurt of these Stolen Generations, their descendants and for their families left behind, we say sorry.

To the mothers and fathers, the brothers and sisters, for the breaking up of families and communities, we say sorry.

And for the indignity and degradation thus inflicted on a proud people and a proud culture, we say sorry.

We the Parliament of Australia respectfully request that this apology be received in the spirit in which it is offered as part of the healing of the nation.

For the future we take heart; resolving that this new page in the history of our great continent can now be written.

We today take this first step by acknowledging the past and laying claim to a future that embraces all Australian.

A future where this Parliament resolves that the injustices of the past must never, never happen again.

A future where we harness the determination of all Australians, Indigenous and non-Indigenous, to close the gap that lies between us in life expectancy, educational achievement and economic opportunity.

A future where we embrace the possibility of new solutions to enduring problems where old approaches have changed.

A future based on mutual respect, mutual resolve and mutual responsibility.

A future where all Australians, whatever their origins, are truly equal partners, with equal opportunities and with an equal stake in shaping the next chapter in the history of this great country.
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dlowan
 
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Reply Tue 12 Feb, 2008 01:35 am
Where did you get it Wilso????????????
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Wilso
 
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Reply Tue 12 Feb, 2008 01:37 am
dlowan wrote:
Where did you get it Wilso????????????


ABC website
http://www.abc.net.au/news/events/apology/text.htm
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