I definitely agree about hammering out some kind of an agreement.
I do think that Gabriel's and Mo's situations are different because Gabriel's foster parents were primary/exclusive caretakers from 4 months on. You and Mr. B were in Mo's life but were not primary caretakers, and Gabriel would be losing his primary caretakers in a similar way that Mo lost his (though Gabriel's foster parents are probably doing a much better job).
aidan, "mother" was a typo in the original post, boomer meant "grandmother" there.
It sounds like the issue is less about
meeting the biological grandma than about giving her sole custody (and taking custody away from the people who have been raising Gabriel since he was 4 months old).
I do agree with this from dlowan, though:
dlowan wrote:I don't think we can make a rational choice on the information given.
It sounds like it's going to be a mess pretty much no matter what, though, poor kid.