Re: Cleft Chin - Paternity
asandmanu wrote:I have a question about the paternity of my son. I have some doubts about his paternity. I have two sons to two different mothers. My first son and I both have cleft chins. My second son does not have a cleft chin. What are the chances he is not my biological son? I would appreciate any feedback. I am trying to avoid going down the paternity test road because I don't want to admit to having these doubts.
How do I break this news to you Sherlock? Has it occurred to you that the first child might not be biologically yours and that he inherited the chin from some other man or a previous generation from the mother? The second child (as well as the first) receive genetic inheritance from both parents and certain traits win out.
I look like my late grandfather but I never thought "hey maybe he's really my dad" Then there's my hair. My father had a full head of hair up until his death. My grandfather (on the side of my mother) was fairly bald by 40 and I have more hair than that several years later. Of course my grandfather was on the portly side whereas I can consume vast quantities of food and never gain weight...much like my father. Better dig up my parents and make sure they were mine. Better add Grampa in there too since I look like him (at least a thinner version). Maybe I'm a scientific first and I have 2 dads...no wait, NBC already did a show like that.
The fact here is that you have doubts. Can you suppress your doubts? Are they well founded (based in fact)? If the mother of the second child has been known to have engaged in sexual activity with other men during a time when you were with her then get the test, otherwise have a little faith and trust in her and get on to loving and raising that little boy, he needs a dad and I can bet ya dollars to doughnuts he is not going to care who it is...it can be you, a man who can be there for him 100% or some hobo from the next town over who will never show up for the kid. You're there, make the best of it, and keep in mind the mother sees you as the father. And what happens if the DNA matches with you? How are you planning to explain this one to the kid 15 years from now? "Oh, I loved you from the start but didn't wanna waste time on you if you weren't mine."