~ HEREDITARY? PERHAPS! ~

As Jane serves "roast pork" for dinner, John comments on how
"delicious" it looks but has been wondering for a long time why
Jane cuts off both ends of the pork.

She ask her, "well dear" replies Jane, "I have always watched
my mother do it when I was growing up and therefore cannot answer
why this has to be done, however I shall ask her why when I speak
with her next"

Later that evening Jane calls her mother to ask. After a short
silent pause, the mother replies "Well dear, I have always watched
your grandmother prepare the roast pork this way, therefore maybe
you should ask her"

By this time curiosity has got the better of Jane and she calls
her grandmother almost immediately..

"Grandma, why do you cut off both ends of the roast pork when
preparing it" ask Jane. "is this to make it taste better"

Her Grandma replies "well Jane, as far as I can remember the
reason I done that was because I could not fit the pork into my
cooking pot otherwise"

oo0oo

The moral of the story is that we as a society seem to do
things almost instinctively or automatically without knowing
the actual real historical reason behind them.

For example... everyone has that voice within which tells you
things such as "be perfect" "hurry up" "make an effort"
"please me" and "be strong".

According to the school of "transactional analysis" we always
seem to associate such messages from our childhood days and
therefore the "drivers" coming from our parents and ancestors
both influence and orient our actions throughout our lives
and as if it has been "thrust" into the values we all hold as
"a highest priority" influence directly to these orders.

But who for example, is capable of always doing everything
perfectly? No one is! So statements such as "be perfect" is
therefore a message which is terribly constraining on the
human mind.

It creates strong internal tension in both us as individuals
and society as a whole. This in turn affects the way we
communicate towards each other.