HELP! I'm thirty!

Don't feel bad, Sozobe. My son got his first gray hairs in junior high.

Anastasia, Please don't take this the wrong way. I'm not trying to trivialize what you went through by any means, but what you went through is a passage to another stage in your life. You get to choose how you will use what you learned from it. Refect on what you learned. In that sense, you need to be self-conscious.

Remember that you are always changing. That is the only constant in life!

(I just realized that sounded like I had a lot of white hair -- there have been like 3 individual hairs so far. Maybe 5. I kinda like 'em, though.)

anastasia, it sounds like you're being so hard on yourself. I hope this doesn't sound cheesy, but you honestly need to be patient and believe that the "real you" will come through in time. I think that if you look too hard or try to force yourself to become someone else, that you'll go crazy. You're in *at least* a couple of major transitions, it sounds like, so take it easy on yourself. Adulthood means different things to different people, and you would be cheating yourself and your own special gifts by trying to squeeze yourself into someone else's (or into the stereotypical) definition of adulthood.

If it's not grey/white hair, it's losing it!

OK, so Walter will think I'm being over-sensitive to the loss of just a few hairs but I have at least 30% less hair on the top of my head than I did 10 years ago. I don't really mind and no woman I've asked about it has said that it bothers her...anyway, colouring hair is a lot easier than re-growing it!

The only other real sign of the times for me are the 4 or 5 hairs that I've picked out of my eybrows (as a man, plucking is clearly a new skill to be learned)! They gave the appearance of those flyaway ones that some older men have sprouting out in all directions...and I'm not going there!!!

[I have been at the famous hairdresser's, my wife goes : good a 'modern' cuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuut: now, it really looks, as if I had no hair at all!]

(My wife, btw, is white since her mid-thirties. Howver, no one notices this due to modern chemistry.)

Liberty - I'm known as "Miss Impatience" by my mother. heheheheh ...

oh my god, pete - receding hairlines run in my family. I am SOOOOO glad I don't have that problem, though. I would die.

I mean ... uh ... "losing your hair is no big deal" ... yeah. <smiles>

It's unbecoming on a woman. (on me, anyway. <nods>) But I think one of the all time sexiest men in the world is Patrick Stewart. <winks>

Oh yeah...with age comes beauty! ") hee hee hee

(Patrick Stewart is too hot)

<whispers> I always thought he was old. I didn't realize for a long time that he shaved his head

Wow, 30 eh? Yer an old bat!

hehehe.. In another 10 years you can join the old farts club. I'll umm.. see if I can save ya a seat at the table. lol

Thirty was difficult for me but by the time I was 34 life was so much better I have never dreaded a birthday since.

Dreading my 30th birthday during my 28th and 29th years was the worst part of 30 for me.

My favorite birthday was 50 cause after age 50 you can do and say what ever you want when ever you want.

Wow, joanne.

I hope after fifty ... yeah.

So, it would be 32 now, huh? Thirty was a killer, alright. I'm past 60 now, and still remember how I felt about that one.

WOW! I read the whole six pages, and ran into cav and Joanne. I'm two times 30 plus a decade, so I'm an old phart, but my life really didn't begin until I was in my late twenties. Until then, my life was without any potential or goals, so the future for me didn't look all that promising. Fast forward forty years, and looking back, it was a hell of a ride. Luck and providence was with me ever since, and it got too good to be true. From a kid that barely graduated high school to an old phart that travels the world is still like a dream. Don't wake me! LOL

I do miss cav and Joanne.

I was just thinking the same thing, c.i.

Reading cav - looking forward to being 60.
Knowing that's not happening.
Having said goodbye to JoanneD in the last week.
Reading posts from a few friends we haven't seen here in a while - SealPoet.

I've learned a lot from my friends here at A2K.
Living my life is one of them.
Not waiting for life to happen to me.

Thanks cav. Thanks JoanneD.

...first of all 'Smile' cause you reached 30, some young people wont get that chance!
30 phiff!! thats nothing...Im in my 30's and like you I was devestated at turning 30, the only thing that changed for me was my hangovers...they are just awful, in my twenties I never suffered a hangover, now it takes me 2 days to fully recover from a good night out...believe you me it will seem like only '24 months' have passed and you will moan on your 35th birthday and wonder where did the last 5 years go?

I know amazing, energetic people who are in their 40's and 50's and they make me feel old!!
30 isnt old- I think its a brilliant age, first of all you can still tell people you are only 27 :wink:

Well, anastasia back here, and responses by cav and Joane...

I turned 30 exactly 2 months ago, Ive found Im eating differently, not beacuse I want to but because my body is saying all my favourites are rubbish.
I also feel like Im meant to be a grown up, Im still living with my parents but really shouldnt be.
I dont feel like marriage tho my friends are getting married thick and fast.No to kids too.

it feels like im not part of the 'cool' generation but Im surprisingly ok wit that.Instaed of worrying about what other people think of me I think 'forget them, why should i be bothered'.

I am finding it difficult to meet people tho, all my friends are attatched so they dont go out as much which means Ive got nobody to socialise with, and I dont know where to go to meet people.

In summery, I like getting/being old.You can kick butt and not be seen as a big head teenager.
Being young is ok but I wouldnt want to go back to it.Been there, done that and as far as I can tell from my retired parents who are in their 60's, they are having a whale of a time os the best really is yet to come.

I'll turn 30 in may. But i've been processing it since I was about 27. I already tell people I'm 30 for some time. Dunno, I guess it came early for me and when it really comes, it won't be an issue...

33 in 20 days, and still surviving.