What Do You Think is the Most Important Quality In A Person?

Phoenix, it is difficult to single out one characteristic, but right now I would say the ability to be honest without being brutal.

If they make no attempts to pay me back, I lose a little respect for them.

personal integrity.

flushd wrote:

The one thing I have a lot of trouble dealing with in people is snivelling and false humility. Overly sensitive people get on my nerves.
Perhaps because I have not yet mastered the quality Letty most looks for -honesty without brutality.

I can understand your attitude. I have found, in general, that overly sensitive people are often very manipulative. They use their perceived "hurt" as a means of controlling people. IMO, it is a very passive aggressive way of relating to people.

I think that Letty is "right on the money". It is so important to be totally honest, but in a way that does not run roughshod over people.

If there were one quality in a person that you believe is the most important, what is it, and why? Are there certain qualities that you look for in a person? whether the person is an co-worker, friend, lover, aquaintance, spouse?

Is there a quality that you believe is so important, that the lack of it would make that person unacceptable to you?

I have found, in general, that overly sensitive people are often very manipulative. They use their perceived "hurt" as a means of controlling people. IMO, it is a very passive aggressive way of relating to people.

Manipulative, by their own admission?

echi wrote:

Manipulative, by their own admission?

No, by my figuring out what those people were attempting to do!