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Sun 3 Nov, 2002 11:05 am
Life and Things There Of
by Jackie A. Sagner
I learned a lot about myself and my life about 7 years ago. I am an only
child and some would say somewhat babied throughout my life. Babied may
not be a good word; maybe sheltered would be a better way to put it.
My father became very ill in 1995. I did not live in the same state so I
would travel from my home in Florida to Tennessee to see him. My mother
was also ill at this time so she was not able to help a lot. The illness
progressed and he passed away a few months later. I felt so empty and
alone after his passing. I had friends to lean on but still it was not
the same I wondered how my life would continue.
My mother came to live with me but that was short lived, we just did not
see eye to eye at the time (I was only 23). She and I had a strained
relationship for many years and just could not seem to get along.
A lot has changed since that time. I am 30 years old now and I now live
only four hours away from my mother making it possible to see each other
more often, and we do see each other quite a bit as well as talking on
the phone daily. I am happily married, settled in my career and now
finally have the relationship with my mom that is stronger than it has
been in my life. It is just proof that life does work out if you just
have patience and see things through.
People sometimes have a hard time looking to the future when things look
so very bleak but take it from me, things do work out in the end.
Phoenix: If only we knew then what we know now:) Life gets easier as we go along, or maybe our perception of it is different. We don't freak out at every little incident and we learn to take the good with the bad.
Have a great day!
Misti26- I think it is our perception that becomes more sophisticated. Hopefully, when we have worked through a difficulty, we may generalize our conclusions, and adapt them to meet the challenge of the next problem that we face.
Like Phoenix after some years one begins to see a patterns emerge. Lots of things come and go and come and go.
The biggest change in my lifetime has been the PC and the net. The PC regarding word processing no errors allowed, we used to be able to make corrections to documents in the past. And the net, i.e., speed. It seems to me speech has not only speeded up but become much more sloppy or maybe mumbled is the better word.
Hi JD: Kinda like "the hurrier I go the behinder I get"!
I think I've heard this called the laundry syndrome. A hundred years ago, mom laundry was a half day job with a tub and a wash board, and we mostly wore the same clothes all week. Now, we change every day and are much cleaner, but it's still about a half day job.
Hi Roger: You're right as always! How did you get so wise?
Don't yah just love Saturdays?
I am now actually old enough to want to be just like my mother. She will never grow up, never grow weary, never take herself or life too seriously. I think I'm on the road right behind her, running to catch up.
(Something my 13 year old daughter finds embarassing, but hey, that is also part of the fun!)
Thats a really nice thought for the day.I think alot of people wished this was the same for them. A parent who's just a great role model besides all the other things. I realize now that I have lost some of that unfortunately.
Squinney: What lovely sentiments! Unfortunately your daughter won't appreciate them until she's your age:)
AK: Sometimes we only think we've lost it, but deep down it's there:)
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