Elderly woman verbally abuses depressed people

Try to remember she's in her 70s. She kind of has a free pass, and has earned her right to act that way lol.

No, she hasn't earned that, or anything else.

There's no excuse for any kind of harassment, bullying, or abuse no matter the age.

She may be displaying depression and the beginnings of dementia herself.

I really think it's time to find a new church.

She's not going to change and no-one there is going to do anything about it. She may well have some mental health issues but that doesn't mean you have to put up with this sort of abuse.

This is absolute nonsense. Being in your 70's doesn't mean you can go around abusing people.

No-one has a 'right' to do this.

Have you ever tried to intervene when this lady begins her bullying behavior? To me, you are as guilty as everyone else if you do not step up and say something when this happens. You can do this kindly understanding this 70 year old may have issues. You can step in and say something like why are you talking to Sammy that way. You know Sammy is really nice and this is hurtful words to her.

Of course she is going to continue acting this way because everyone just ignores it, but she is hurting others. If this 70 year old was whacking someone over the head with her cane you would stop her, right? This is no different, as it is and can be just as hurtful as if she were physically harming someone.

Sometimes it just takes one person to step up and say something before others do as well.

Oh and have you brought up the fact that one of the pastor's church members contemplated suicide as a result of this "harmless" lady's words?

And yeah I would leave the church and invite those that are bullied to go with you.

Again: She may be displaying depression and the beginnings of dementia herself. She may need help.

I did do that multiple times but it only made matters worse. The church often uses emotional blackmailing tactics such as telling us we will burn in hell forever if we don't forgive her and if we leave. Her family also ganged up on me in her defense, making me the villain and pretty much threatening my own well-being. It looks like that whole group is rife with narcissists and enablers. I think one of the reasons the members have this hear-no-evil-see-no-evil approach is because it's the way they get brainwashed. Leaving is complicated because the other depressed individuals she abuses has family members in the church.

I think Coconut is just joking.

Izzat right?

What are the signs or early signs of dementia?

She might need help but she needs to be polite and ask in a peaceful manner.

Please reread your post. You are asking a sick person to be un-sick enough to ask for help.

You ought to look into obtaining a search engine. It will prove very handy.


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I know she isn't well but it still doesn't give her a right to take it out on people who she is conscious is already hurting. It's very difficult for me to have sympathy for her when she acts like an animal.

BS. We all have problems, it doesn't mean she gets to abuse others to feel better. If someone commits suicide because she is nasty to depressed people she needs to be accountable.

Seems to give to give you the right to judge her ill self.

So you decide who's illness is a burden and who's illness is a nuisance. Situational ethics trump unconditional love, right?