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"the cut —"?

 
 
Reply Thu 22 Dec, 2022 07:14 am
I am going nuts trying to remember a 3-word phrase that begins with "the cut..." (as in "insult") and ends with an adjective meaning "absolute" or "supreme." I'm looking for that adjective. (Not "the unkindest cut," BTW.) The phrase is not much in use and may have a literary origin, but it's not in my Bartlett's.
 
Mame
 
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Reply Thu 22 Dec, 2022 09:28 am
@Brbrac ,
In Victorian times, they used the term "cut direct", as follows:

https://uncommon-courtesy.com/2014/10/01/the-cut-direct-the-fiercest-etiquette-punishment/

The cut direct goes back a long time- it developed during the Regency period (Jane Austen times) and could be much more socially devastating than just one person ignoring another. There were also a lot of rules that went along with it:

To be a true cut, the cutter had to be so deliberate and obvious about it that the cuttee could have no doubt about what was happening.

A gentleman was never to cut a lady, no matter what she had done.

Gentlemen had to be particularly careful about cutting other gentlemen, as the snub could lead to the challenge of a duel.

Unmarried ladies were not to cut married ladies.

Hosts could not cut their guests (why had they invited them in the first place?)

Social leaders had to be very cautious in using it, as their use of it could very well destroy a person socially (if you are completely ostracized from Society, then you ruin all of your marriage prospects and/or your children’s marriage prospects, and since at the time, marriage was a consolidation of wealth and power- then you would have none. Not to mention having no friends and basically no where to go and nothing to do.) Famously, the Prince of Wales cut Beau Brummel publicly and it actually backfired on him because Beau hadn’t really done anything dreadful and everyone felt that the Prince was abusing his power shamefully.

A cut direct must be employed only when someone has done something truly horrible and everyone in your social circle knows it. Otherwise it will make you look petty and cruel.

Would that be it?
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