@engineer,
engineer wrote:
I think maybe when she starts talking about you putting gas in her car, you have a discussion about that then and there. Driving to the store and back probably consumes less than a gallon of gas. What's next, monitoring toilet paper usage? Rather than get irritated and looking for opportunities for revenge, ask her what the deal is. There is clearly a deeper problem here.
Exactly, that's what I said to her. Anytime I used her car it was to run a mile down the road to the closest grocery store to get US something to eat for dinner. Or, if we're out running around doing our normal running around or errands she'll usually turn to me and says I need to put gas in her car because I may have driven it that week. Now granted she's taken her car and gotten her nails done or her hair done but I'm the one who has to put gas in it. No, we don't have a joint account like most couples do. I suggested it to her years ago but she refused. She won't tell me exactly what she makes, what she brings home, or how much she has in the bank. We have a major discussion about bills and things last night and earlier this year we started a program to possibly help us buy a home and at that point she was willing to give total strangers all of her financial information but me she won't even let me know how much money she has in the bank. Then she said she may not have given them everything. So she was going to hold back financials to an organization that was going to help us buy a house. Funny thing is that a month or so after we started the program we get a knock on our door and it was a sheriff delivering her court papers because she had a secret credit card that I didn't know about and she had maxed it out for more than $10k. She refuses to let me know anything financial when it comes to her but if I bring anything up then I'm the one being petty. She's more so concerned about going on a cruise next year than us working out some sort of budget so we can position ourselves to purchase a house. But every other week or so she's complaining about us still living in a rental house.
So yes, I have no problem asking for gas money given she drove my truck. She asked for it when I drove her car.