@nycdad,
Agree with Izzy on this.
I do not have what you describe....but I have been indirectly going through this. My daughter has had anxiety that severe. She has had therapy and for a period of time low dosage of medication. She is no longer taking any medication and is attending college and playing basketball there ...sports actually helps her anxiety.
Her anxiety was so bad sometimes she would not want to get out of bed, she had outbursts, she would cut, it was really difficult for a while.
She is much more confident now and is able to manage her anxiety. Finding a qualified professional is probably the best bet to help you manage this. I did not want to go into this because I am not qualified to give you any more information other than to seek help.